Well, I'm in a sort of unexpected situation here, since this is my fourth year of college and I've barely dated at all so far. I met a really cool girl in one of my classes this semester, and we got along well right away. I've been out with her for coffee and we ran into each other and had lunch together at school once. I really like hanging out with her and just talking, but she has come on pretty strong a couple of times, even suggesting recently that we get drunk together. Now, she might just be joking around with me, but I take this as a pretty direct physical come-on. (She's still 20, so she's not talking about going to a bar here or something). She is very, very attractive, but I need to spend some more casual time with her before jumping in to something like this, and if/when I do ask her over to my apartment, I don't know if it should go past kissing on the first visit. I'm not particularly conservative about sex, I just need a certain amout of time to get comfortable with a person, and don't want this to turn into just a physical thing from the beginning. So, how do I show that I'm interested but need to take it slow for now? Would a dinner date be a good idea, or is that too boring and conventional? Am I just totally flattering myself?
