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Thanks for the advice you guys. Im meeting up with her in two weeks and think i will end our relationship. She's talking about having babies and going on holidays, but today at work im thinking is she saying all this stuff to piss off her ex when he calls. Who know's maybe she needs to know that he really loved her and by telling him what our plans are he will change his ways and fight to win her back. What i can't understand is that she was literally suporting her ex, paying of his credit card bills that ran into thousands of pounds and sets up a joint acount with him, which he overdrawed. flying off to Europe and the States, and she still want's to speak to somebody like that. I said to her over the phone that i don't think you are totally over him, in which she snapped i have. I have never treated her like her ex where he exploited her financially. ive always paid or we have gone half and half. And i would never want any women to support me. And for somebody to have two degree's and studying for a third it makes me wonder. I feel such a fool and most of all used. You know ive meet lots of girls that have shown an interest who are far more attractive than her and i have remained loyal, because i don't believe in cheating. But the red flag was out in the early stages of our relationship when she told me everything what he did to her, but said she could never love anyone the way she loved him. And you know what, i should have never bothered with her just pitied her. All through this relationship she was making prove my comitment to her and love and asking me if im bored with her yet. And each time the ex would call and i show my fustration the response would be don't you trust me. I don't what planet i was on in this relationship. but as the saying goes your always wiser after the event. Thanks for the advice from everyone and like an opinion from you girls is why do girls hold on to men who treat them like crap.

My girlfriend is now saying she wants a baby and for us to set up home together. She said she has been feeling broody since Christmas. Im not to sure what to make of this seeing that she asked me whether if she were to cheat on me would i forgive her. There's a part of me that want's to trust and spend the rest of my life with her. And half that feels that i should move on, even more so since she made a confession to me over dinner, that she and her friend went Christmas shopping and they got on the wrong bus. Instead of calling me and asking me which bus to get, she calls her ex! She assures me nothing happened. Im beginning to wonder where im going in this relationship. When we first met she said she admitted that she did n't find me attractive because im not that tall, but she has grown to love me. Though im not that tall i would give mself an eight. I would n't say she is drop dead gorgeous not even pretty, but i never been one into looks alone. She told me she keeps her ex's number because she feels insecure. Sometimes i feel she is using it as an excuse. She is in her first year of doing her degree and plans to continue the second year whilst pregnant. I don't where this brainwave has come from. Any advice from a girls perspective will be appreciated.

Hello there, My girlfriend of 8 months asked me whether i would forgive if she were to cheat on me. I told her that i would n't and that i would put an end to our relationship. She seemed quite upset to my response. She said that she would forgive me if i were to cheat on her. I told her that i would never do that because i would not put myself in that position and you don't do that to someone you love. Im not sure want to make of this, because im thinking has she cheated on me and testing my respone if said yes i forgive you, or is she in a position where she can cheat. Has any guys out there had there girlfriend ask a similar question, and i would especially like to here a girls point of view. Nigel

I have been going out with my girlfriend for a year now, and the problem that i have is, she still has her ex boyfriends number and he calls her. He treated her badly in terms finacially where she was doing all the spending and even paying his credit card debts. I can't understand it. She tells me not to worry and iam the one she is with but iam not convinced. Of late he has been calling her and telling her how does she know that iam not taking her for a ride! She has be criical of me saying that should make decisions and take control. It's as though she is assinating my charcter. Now im beginning to think she has cheatd on me with her ex,and by attacking me personally she is evading guilt. In the beginning of our relationship she asked me if could ever love anybody the way i loved my ex, which i replied yes because i have moved on. She then said she does n't think she could love anybody the way she loved her ex. Probably that is the answer to my question, but she say's she loves me even though she has often said that i don't think that she does. Should i cut my losess and move on or give our relationship a go. Nigel