motolove

Thank you for the great advice. Someone sent me a private message regarding my arguing boyfriend saying that he might be cheating. They suggest he may be bored and thats why we argue so much. That thought mixed with the lack of sex makes me wonder. Now I'm worried! I can't tell and I will never find out if he is so I probably shouldn't stress so much. But he was laid off a long time ago and he has a ton of time during the day to cheat, we argue, there's no sex, I think I'm getting too paranoid now. Help!

Guys have different ways of showing love, even if it looks like they aren't showing it at all. You have expectations and he's not filling them. I used to be like that, but have learned that though my boyfriend never says I love you unless I say it, it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. It just means that he has never learned to say it. As for his planning things without you, some guys do that, and I don't know why. I wouldn't take it personally though. I noticed that when I was younger that most of the guys I have been with did that, and as I grew older (I'm 30 now), guys don't seem to do that as much. Though I can't say if he loves you or not for sure, my guess is he does. He is with you and you are his girl, right?

I've have been with this guy for almost two years now and we have lived with eachother most of the relationship and for last 6 months we have been arguing every week. I dont' even know why we argue. Seriously, sometimes the next day I can't even remember what we had argued about. I love him so much but the arguing has caused lack of sex, lack of attention (from him, not me) and then we argue about that too. I'm having doubts in my mind about the relationship. I'm even getting paranoid about him and my trust levels have gone down since we haven't had any peace or sex. Can it be saved? The tension is so high around the house. We have tried to have a clean start but that didn't last very long. I'm about to lose it and need help but please dont' say counseling, I want to make sure we have tried everything else before we get to that point.