matteo1

Yeah, she says she tries so hard, but since she is introverted, something "innate" seems to hold her back. She says she wants to go home to because thats where her friends are. She wants people to like her and wants people to talk to her but she doesnt understand why they pay no attention.

well i think for both reason. I guess i assumed if she had friends at school she wouldnt feel like she needed to be with me. I have many friends since im on a team; i see these people everyday and im close to them, i think shes just lonely in general. I guess i feel guilty cause i have people here to keep me socially occupied while she doesnt.

But the thought of leaving her does hurt me to the core. I don't care about other girls, i want her to transfer and be my neighbor at school, i want to be done with school so i can spend the rest of my life with her. But the whole point of college is to prepare you for the career world. I feel like im hindering her experience; if she got over me and found a new guy, and lived happily ever after, i would be happy with that cause i love her and i want the best for her. having her transfer to me i think is selfish, and immature (her school does not offer what im interested in.) Another thing, she has never had another boyfriend, i dont know if this is bad, do we stay together till were married, this is very confusing to me cause i was traumatized after my first girlfriend broke up with me because she didnt want to be "tied down anymore." Maybe she should expierence another relationship before she is tied forever? Again my intentions are not to get this girl off my back or somehing, ITS TO HELP HER, GIVE HER THE BEST SHE CAN HAVE EVEN IF I HAVE TO SACRAFICE HER IN MY LIFE.

Hi, I'm new and searching for advice, so i found this site thanks for anyone who takes the time to actually read this. Anyway, my girlfriend and i go to different colleges now, about 3 and a half hours apart, so its tuff to see eachother especaially since im on the soccer team. I love this girl more than anything, and i want to marry her, but life is just not that simple. She loves me the same way, but shes awfully shy, and cannot make friends on her own at school. She cries everyweekend and says she has no friends and hates school. shes depressed. I feel like im responsible for her not trying harder to make friends cause she knows she always has me. She also says she wants to transfer, but we dont know if it would be a good idea to go to the same school. Since i love this woman with all my heart, i cannot help thinking maybe it would be best to let her go, and give her a chance on living independently and make friends on her own, gaining people skills.... Im only 19, how do i know if i should break up? please help us