a_girl

The last time me and my boyfriend has sex it was really painful. We were at a party and neither of us were drunk or anything, but before we had sex he was really keen and unpatient and instead of being gentle like he usually always is, he just kinda ripped my clothes off ,skipped foreplay and pushed me onto the bed. At first he was moving in and out of me at a normal sorta pace but after a while i think he must of got a bit carried away, and just started thrusting really hard, fast and deep. It was really painful and I told him that he was hurting me and clearly showed signs that i wasnt comfortable with what he was doing but he didnt listen to me and stop or anything. After we were finished he jetted off to the bathroom. I sat there in pain. It felt worser than a period pain and i noticed a small amount of blood on the bed. I was pretty annoyed with what happened and what made things worser was that i noticed an unused condom on the side dresser and thought that maybe he didnt use it. When he returned to the room i asked him " didnt you use this?" and he told that it just slipped his mind. I felt really awkward around him because of wjat happened and i didnt see him for the rest of the night because he went home without me. I took a pregnancy test the day after because it was the first time we had sex without protection, although i thought for sure that he had put it on. Anyway the test came out negative but my period is late. When i told one of my friends that i bled after having sex she suggested that i might have an STD. I dont think that its possible however, because i lost my virginity to this guy and hes the only person ive had sex with. I feel like going to a clinic but do you think that its necessary? I havnt spoken to my boyfrind properly since what happened. I dont feel like i can just bring it up, and if i do mention it to him i think he might tell me i took it the wrong way or something. Weve been together for about 7/8 months and started having sex about 5 months into the relationship. Nothing like that has ever happened before. I dont understand why he didnt stop. Any suggestions?

Hi, i just joined here and i have this problem with my boyfriend. Im 16 and he's 18. We are pretty close and spend alot time together. Weve been with each other for about 4 months and he really wants to have sex with me. Weve done pretty much everything apart from sex, but im still a virgin and im not exactly ready yet. We have both spoken about this many times before and he says he understands So the other night when i was at his place, he was trying it on with me and basically attempting to have sex with me for the first time. I told him to stop and that i wasnt ready to do it yet, and he just kinda flipped and got all mad. He told me that i was out of order because im always leading him on and acting like im well up for it. He also questioned as to whether i trust him or not, and said he's waited 4 months for me, so whats the problem? I told him i just wasnt ready yet and i dont think he understands that anymore. I dunno, i wouldnt say thats how i act around him, and im not sure where he gets the impression that im ready and up for it. Im kinda very playful and maybe he misleads that into thinking other things. I now feel this need to give him what he wants as he's clearly fed up of waiting on me. I really like him and he says he feels the same way about me. I was just surprised at his reaction when i told him to stop, and now feel very pressured about sex with him as hes expecting more from me. Im not sure what to do. I know hes not a virgin which never really botherd me before, but now i prefere and think its better if i lost it to a guy thats a virgin also. I like the guy alot and we have a great relationship, im just not sure what to do right now.