I can see pretty well that I am not alone! That's a comfort.
I met this guy at my condo and we are on the social committee together. I expressed my interest to him and he asked me on a date. The evening went well and we had a lot of fun. The second date, he made the moves on me and I went along because I was really attracted to him. So before we went any further, he told me that he didn't want to be in a serious relationship. Yes, that is an alarm bell. I know. My first instinct was to kick him out of my place. But, I was so unsure. We did sleep together and I told him that it is important to me to have something with someone when I am intimate with them. A little late for the news, I know. He said that he could see it was important to me and would give it a try. He said for us to take things slow.
And we did after that. We would just hang together and get to know eachother.
I was giving him his space. He then dropped the bomb on me and told me that he didn't want to mislead me. He didn't see us progressing in the future. He just can't be in a relationship right now. I said okay. So we were to be friends. I didn't blow up at him, but left things amiable with him. Probably with the hope that he would change his mind.
So I would touch base with him once in a while to see how he was doing. He invites me to a party at his place. I was little hesitant about going because I was afraid of seeing him with someone else. ( I suspected he was). All was well at the party and was talking to people and schmoozing and having a good time. He had a friend over that people were speculating if there was more going on. I didn't think much on it. We all went to a club. And so he was all over this girl in front of me. Dancing dirty with her, kissing her. I don't think he was doing this deliberately to hurt me. I don't think he was aware that I did have feelings for him. So I tapped him on the shoulder and calmly asked him to go out to his car so that i can pick up my jacket because i was leaving.
We are out in the parking lot. He asked me if there was anything wrong. I basically said that he wasn't straight with me. He said ... how so? I said that the fact that he wasn't looking for a serious relationship. He should have said that we're incompatible. He said, that he isn't looking for one ... anyhow, I got a taxi and said to him that I wasn't mad, I just can't see that right now.
When I got home, I left him vmail on his cell. I stated that I didn't think he did anything wrong. I wasn't prepared to see that. I wasn't comfortable and wasn't enjoying myself, so I had to leave. I called him the next day to ensure everything was okay. He understood.
So on the Sunday, we had to hang out together because we were on the social committee at our condo for a casino trip. We hung out together all day. I think he wanted to smooth things over.
I know I have no choice but to let him go... I am just having a hard time. Despite everything, I really liked this guy. I really felt there was great potential. I still think him decent.
So what am I to do? I still think about him a lot. I still feel miserable. I can't seem to accept this even after one brief month! I can't seem to function. It seems to affect everything I do. My ego is really hurt.
Need some advice ... some guidance!
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