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I know because i am asking the question that I am in fact, unsure. I understand that and that is what I am trying to deal with. I am trying to get answers and I keep fighting with myself. Are you saying that what I need is time? Time away from him to see if i want to be with him? If so, what if I come to the realization that I want to be with him but then he decides later on that he has moved on? Then what?

I appreciate your opinion, really. He did not say we are getting married this summer. We were broken up when he said he was going to ask me when we were together, then we broke up. He is not looking for another 'mother', I know that. He is particular, just the way I am. I know it may seem like I am defending him, but I know the kind of person he is and he is very kind and very sensitive. I was very sick in the hospital not too long ago and he was by my side for the entire week. He even spent the night there with me because he knew I was upset and uncomfortable. He has a big heart and that is why I feel so deeply for him. My question is, Is my love for him the kind that you spend the rest of your life with that person? That is what I don't know. The status right now is that we are not back together but we are constantly talking. We are not getting back together tomorrow and I don't knwo if we will ever. I was questioning if my love for him is "THE LOVE". How do I know?

We have talked about the issues and he said he understands sometimes, what he does and he is trying to correct things and change the way he talks and acts. I know he loves me and wants to be with me. We talk about going to therapy to talk things out. I don't know if I want to commit to that because that is like saying, "ok, we are going to make this work, thats's it we are together". I don't know if I want to do that. I think tht is what I am confused about. Noth whether he loves me or I "love" him, but whether or not i have the same kind of love he has for me. The "death do us part" love. How do I know if he is the one? How do I know what I am feeling right now will ever pass? Will it be to late if we stop talking now and then 6 months from now I want him back but he has moved on? Those are the things I question everyday. An dI am afraid to make the worng choice.

I am new to this site but I am in need of venting and some advice. I was with my bf for 3 years. I broke up with him in March 04. The reason I broke it off was because he has tendencies to be possesive and jealous. I wanted to go out with friends and he was behaving like he always had, 20 questions, interogating, asking for every little detail, etc. I got so fed up and ended it. There have been other times that we had fights over things like him accusing me on cheating on him. He has different outlooks on life and thats because he was brought up in a very traditional household. I was brought up semi-traditional but more progressive(if that makes sense). I was a coward and broke up over the phone and email We didn't talk for 6 weeks. No contact at ALL. Then I was walking home and he drove by. He didn't see me but I saw him and my heart sank. I was trying to get over all the feelings but they all came back as soon as I saw him. I called him that night just to see how he was doing (I know big mistake but I had a weak moment). We ended up seeing eachother that night to talk. We talked, we cried, and kissed by the end of the night. He told me that he was ready to porpose to me in the summer. I was crushed. I told him I still loved him. It has been 2 1/2 weeks now and we have talked everyday (like 2-3 times a day) and we are acting like we are back together even though neither of us have talked about it and we haven't told anyone (friends or family). I have some days when I can't wait to talk to hima nd other days when I feel like he is not the one for me. I have been thinking lately that maybe I really don't "Love" him that way. Love him to be married to him. Maybe I love him only as a dear friend. I am soo cunfused. I constantly keep changing my mind. I certainly can't tell him, "um, I don't know if I really love you anymore". that would crush him and probably couldn't bring myself to ever say that. What should I do?????