Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 12

Thread: How do you break the touch barrier?

  1. #1
    googoodollsroc
    Member googoodollsroc's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Age
    23
    Posts
    275
    Gender
    Male

    How do you break the touch barrier?

    This girl I liked almost touched me on the hand but she sorta backed out of it last minute (It was obvious to see what she was doing). She's never been physical with a guy and I just wanna break the touch barrier very lightly cause some times she can get very close to me and I think she keeps trying to break the barrier but she can't so has anybody got any ideas that can help me?


  2. #2
    Cognitive_Canine
    Platinum Member Cognitive_Canine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Location
    Somewhere over the rainbow
    Posts
    17,569
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    5
    Put your arm around her?

  3. #3
    googoodollsroc
    Member googoodollsroc's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Age
    23
    Posts
    275
    Gender
    Male
    Quote Originally Posted by Cognitive_Canine [Register to see the link]
    Put your arm around her?
    I know this sound weried but I think that might be too much for her, one guy just tapped her on the knee and she got quite funny about it.

  4. #4
    Cognitive_Canine
    Platinum Member Cognitive_Canine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Location
    Somewhere over the rainbow
    Posts
    17,569
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    5
    Quote Originally Posted by googoodollsroc [Register to see the link]
    I know this sound weried but I think that might be too much for her, one guy just tapped her on the knee and she got quite funny about it.
    How old is she?

    Also, maybe she likes you but didn't really like that one guy that tapped her on the knee. The same touch by different people will provide different reactions.

    You could try just touching knees when sitting next to her. Or perhaps placing your hand next to hers and touch edges of your palm. Another one is to place your hand on her shoulder when pointing something out. All very innocent touches that could be accidents.

  5. #5
    pinkrobot
    Platinum Member pinkrobot's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    Location
    where the wild things are
    Age
    30
    Posts
    1,994
    Gender
    Female
    Age will have a lot to do with it.

    Experience will have a lot to do with it.

    Whether or not she likes you and WANTS to be touched by you will have almost everything to do with it.

    Is she interested in you? Does she know you're interested in her?

    Hugs are always a good way to ease into more touching. Next time you're together, and one of you is leaving, give her a hug and make sure to pull her really close.

  6. #6
    coldplay.
    Gold Member coldplay.'s Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Age
    28
    Posts
    1,233
    Gender
    Male

    Post

    Social touch --> Friendship touch --> the sky is the limit.


    Social touch is like touching their hand while talking for example or tapping someone on the should to get their attention. Basically normal, safe places to touch someone in most social outtings. Pretty easy to understand.

    Friendship touching is different, you wouldnt put your arm around someone you didnt know so that wouldnt be considered social touch. But a friend or someone you like, yes. Hands on the upper - lower back, also friendship touch, basically still having no real direct touching but understanding they are comfortable with you.

    If you want to break the touch barrier, just dont be threatening, it isnt a big deal at all.... she gets touched by several different people a day in different ways, but are they stressing about it? Not at all. So what makes you different? Your intentions shouldnt make your interaction with her any different. Tease her or something, punch her in the arm, doesnt matter really.

  7. #7
    googoodollsroc
    Member googoodollsroc's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Age
    23
    Posts
    275
    Gender
    Male
    Quote Originally Posted by pinkrobot [Register to see the link]
    Age will have a lot to do with it.

    Experience will have a lot to do with it.

    Whether or not she likes you and WANTS to be touched by you will have almost everything to do with it.

    Is she interested in you? Does she know you're interested in her?

    Hugs are always a good way to ease into more touching. Next time you're together, and one of you is leaving, give her a hug and make sure to pull her really close.
    She's 18. I guess she sorta is cause she can get pretty close to me and like I said she tried touching my hand and I don't wanna make too much of a move on her just incase I've beeen reading her sign wrong. But the hug idea is good cause I get hugged by alot of girls that are my friends so it isn't "heavy" at all.

  8. #8
    googoodollsroc
    Member googoodollsroc's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Age
    23
    Posts
    275
    Gender
    Male
    Oh, she's never had a bf, I'm probably the closest thing she's had to a bf since she knows my feeling for her and we're just working on things cause we don't really know each other too well.

  9. #9
    arcadefire
    Platinum Member arcadefire's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Posts
    2,382
    Gender
    Female
    I would suggest taking her out to a club setting where there is dancing. Usually the touch barrier can be broken down there, you can lead her by holding her hand, etc.

  10. #10
    googoodollsroc
    Member googoodollsroc's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Age
    23
    Posts
    275
    Gender
    Male
    I'm not really the club typer person and neither is she so I don't think that will work, plus I'm still 17 lol. She looked happy to see me today so that was pretty kewl.

  11.  

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Top Threads
Boyfriend of 3 years is blaming me for his smoking
Hi everyone. First a little background info on the situation: We're both 26 and we met 3 years ago online (not on a dating site) where we maintained
Jealous of my boyfriend's wild past
But not exactly how you would think. I've made my peace with his sexual past, it's his "fun" and wild past that I can't get over. My boyfriend
My mother is snooping into my relationship
I know I posted about how my boyfriend came out as a bisexual after three years of dating right before he wanted to propose. And if some of you don't
We want to be friends with benefits. HELP
So my best friend (guy) and I have been talking about being FWB. We did date for 8 months and broke up 6 months ago, timing was just off, and he had
Long Distance Boyfriend Suddenly Wants Zero Commitment?
I hope I can get my head on straight by posting this here, and appreciate all advice possible. I've been dating my boyfriend Long Distance for
would you stay with bf who has admittedly once shoved his ex
Hi all, Sorry if this is a bit long. I've been with my bf for 5 to 6 months. We live in the same apartment building so have been spending Alot of
Curious Question for Women
I am very curious as to this desire that seems to "afflict" many women that after a failing, failed, loss of romance in the relationship for them or

valendtine's  day counseling
Featured Threads
How should I proceed?
I have financially supported my wife for the first 10 years of our marriage. I paid for everything (including her student loan from college) while
Was it rape if it wasn't violent?
Okay, I've never posted this on a forum or anywhere before so it's a little uncomfortable for me but bear with me. I met a guy two years ago that
Not sure what to make of this
So my boyfriend, 28, and I (26) have been together a year and a half now. My boyfriend, "Brett", used to be a member of this site called 'Suicide
Was He Cheating?
I need some advice. I have been with my bf for 2.5 years. I recently went through his phone which I never do but I had a bad feeling. He's been
My mother is snooping into my relationship
I know I posted about how my boyfriend came out as a bisexual after three years of dating right before he wanted to propose. And if some of you don't
hello new here and have a very unique situation
I just want to say HI and share a situation that I need help with desperately. So I will start off. I am a 37 yr old male, healthy and fit. I own
Do I leave my secure relationship for my soulmate?
So I've been with my fiancÚ for about 6 years and engaged half that. I've also been friends with a coworker of his for those 6 years. Only about a
Ask For Advice

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •