darcypoq, don't call her!!!!! write here all night if you have to also, i think you should ignore the birthday - you have to be looking after yourself not thinking about how to make her feel nice!
stay strong, things will get easier!
great thread. not sure i will ever manage to digest all 144 pages of it but i get the message
trying to do semi-NC - which i define as not initiating contact and not replying to meaningless sms, email, how are you style calls. want her back so if she wants to talk properly - bring it on otherwise ... NC and move on.
good luck with it everyone!