break up and want to get back together

[fireball8716]

my girlfriend who i have been seeing steady for a year called me up and started to cry and said that she wanted to stop going out because she needed a break. i don't know what to do? is there any way i could get back together with her?

[Finzsoftie]

GIVE HER TIME

You have to find out her reasons for wanting space and a break, and then you can judge from there.

 

PM me if you want

[grounded]

Go and see her, unless she said not to. Either in person on on phone, tell her you really care about her and love her. Before telling her you don't want to break up, tell her you care about her feelings and want her to be happy, (not necessarily happy with you). Ask her about her feelings. Listen. Don't try to solve things, just listen and let her know you understand why she feels the way she does. Don't defend yourself if she says you did things wrong. Agree with her. Don't do anything in a whiny manner, don't cry, don't be pushy. Don't push for anything and don't try to rationalize things for her. She is going to feel how she needs to feel whether it is logical or not. Just listen to her and try to understand why she feels the way she does. If she then opens the door to talking about not breaking up, then talk about it. Just let her know she is important to you. But you have to let her know she is important without pressuring her to get back. She needs to feel it is ok to do whatever she feels like she needs to do and that you will be OK.

 

Don't panic, don't burn any bridges. LIfe is a long long journey. Good luck. There is a lot of good info on the net--e-books and real books. Don't forget there is always light at the end of the tunnel no matter how you currently feel.

[fireball8716]

well she started hangin out with this new guy....she still wants to be my friend she says and doesn't want me to stop talking to her.......what am i supposed to do