sfboi415 Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 This question is related to Conversational Tips, but it is not a romantic-type question. If you are in an environment where you are literally shut out of the conversation (because they don't like you for whatever reason or they only like to listen to the loud and humorous guy or they don't value what you have to say so then they won't give you an ear), what are the techniques you can do to reassert your position as a key talker in the conversation? Do you have to be well-read? Or knowledgable about common, everyday real issues? My situation: I am a student in a technical training class, and for the third semester, I am the Voice That No One Listens To. Maybe it is my age, but age is nothing! I am trying to see what I can do to become a more active player, because the rest of my classmates have no problem creating conversations that flow. Some people are humorous, others share information about themselves or things that they know. But my mind is blank, and usually I laugh along or mention something to my neighbor, not to the whole class. Still don't know why I do that. Link to comment
skyjuice Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 Hi I think before anyone could listen to you, you have to listen to them first. When you are listening in the conversation, are you interested in the topic conversed? Do you ask further question? Everyone has different personality. Build up your own personality. Some are quiet, while some are loud. Which characteristic are you in? Link to comment
johnagent1911 Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 Just be yourself Link to comment
kingakrav Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 our challenges hit us all from different directions always in the most hard way they can this is the natural state of us beings as entities who ment to exist for the purpose of growth what you describe is a very natural state of challenge. the challenge for you is built from few important aspect, you could realise the challenge, then you could bit it bitting the challenges of our lives always open up doors... inner doors for love for occult for truth you are a person of trtuh and honest beyond words and action you are very loyal and good friend there is always something which you find "un-beautiful" once you realise the trtuh of it. thereforeeee i could tell you the first challenge, the beauty finding the true beauty in life isnt an easy thing to do you have to know that elegancy and tact are very important things together with that, you need to learn to accept the fact, that some things are not just coming from hard work and investment, but they come just like this, like a magic, out of the blue. this is a truth. let yourself be more playfull and more elegant and fast, dont be attached to old idead, dont be attached to old feelings, dont be attached to old relations, learn that some things, even invisble for us, keep us from moving up. the challenge is not to let go of this things, sometimes we have to smash them! break them! destroy and hurt them, in order to really let go of them (imagine you have a really good friend for many years, he was always BAD to you, but you never could go away from him, you are faithful and loyal friend...after many years, you cant just let go of this relation if you want, cause it became just something too close and too strong. but in fact, you should leave it. then, what is needed, is to BREAK this relation. like storm do. break it, smash it, with all your force, that action has a true seed of light and new generation which always lead to self development in most high levels.) now, you questiong is how you attune yourself to this enviorment, or any enviorment, finding the right tune is an art, and art is something we need to master try to be sometimes cold, but not cruel, cold from afflictive emotions (jelousy, anger and so on) and be in self control. hold that control, with your will, cause you know what you want, then you would already be in higher position to break through. be playful in talks, dont be so serious as you know how to be... seriousness is too heavy sometimes... be light and fast and let go of things fast, your mind will learn to attune to this flow to this movement of energies, you would be able to enter into any conversation any situation anything... just like water find their naturel flow, without trying really... they just flow into the right places. i think...you might have understood me better than others if something isnt clear just ask. this letter is for you. Link to comment
kingakrav Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 another thing which always could be an obstacle in such situation, is our fears of how we would be seem to others... i myself sometimes just become so afraid... i act only from my fears and suffer but i do it to be accepted by siceity not to be rejected but in fact, giving up myself rather then letting myself go is WRONG i know for myself that i always regret so like one topic said simply, be yourself, dont be afraid, but dont be also pride dont just want to loud your voice up to be in the center of events and to make them all hear ya for the sake of feeling important that is wrong its leads to more problem than being afraid from what people would think of you... just be real, you are a real person, you are always speaking truth and you are honest but modesty is something pure fight for keeping it pure. Link to comment
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