romantic interest

[workaholic]

How do you put it accross (delicately) that you are romantically interested in a girl without her reacting uncomfortably and drawing away from you? What are the safest verbal and non-verbal techniques that have helped you? And, how important does time relate to your situation?

[rionmccloud]

I had a beer before work and just asked her out. She said yes. And if she said no, the beer would have come in handy.

[jna35]

From a female perspective, I would want the guy to just be genuine and sincere. Just be yourself.

[lisica]

That is a though question because it depends so much on the situation and the person in question. From my own experience, I can say that it is usually very flattering if someone has a romantical interest. After I find out, I tend to feel pleasant and comfortable around that person, even if I do not feel the same way romantically. That is because I know then for sure that that person genuinely likes me and is not just being friendly.

 

Things that have scared me away in the past are pushy behaviour - when a guy does not want to understand that I do not want to date him and he makes me invent a million and one excuses because I do not want to hurt him by bluntly saying I am not interested. That kind of person I avoid in the future because I do not want to have to come up with even more excuses. And also inappropriate physical behaviour - getting touchy I mean - because then I am simply scared to be alone with him and what if he can not control himself...