Fotini

Sorry, I'm really tired because I woke up two hours ago without much sleep. In fact I was making that post whilest consuming the continuation of my breakfast (how's that for an early-morning activity?). Thanks for your post, that makes me feel a little better. I have heard before that being nervous can prevent an erection, in fact I meant to ask for confirmation on that, but I guess I got it already. Maybe I can take comfort in knowing that blunders are inevitable, but if I freak out over them it may be my number one blunder - no erection! Usually knowing what could happen if I freak out seems to calm me down. I can't believe I didn't say more about it, but I basically picked her up at an on-campus party through dancing and things went from there, this was a week ago and we've since made out a lot. She's definitely not doing anything with anyone else and we've hit it off pretty well, probably the most suggestive was the dancing and fooling around, and once when she asked if I wanted to see her room (it was next door to her dorm room and that fact was mentioned somewhere at the time, so it may not mean -everything-, but when I was there I was kinda nervous and I was just saying really small and probably stupid things like, "Cool poster" - I didn't advance things very well). I know the situation isn't as romantic as I'd like to admit, but I do like her and I'd basically be happy with whatever happens, be it long-term relationship or hearing it's game over tomorrow. Also she doesn't know I'm a virgin although some small little vibes I may have given off could tell her I am. Should I tell her beforehand? Thanks a lot, great post. I'm working a bit on my confidence; I tend to hope for things to happen on their own rather than trying to grab the bull by the horns. I know mostly it's because I worry too much that I move things too quickly and piss her off or something, and I see other people just dive right in and get laid on the first night they meet someone or dance with them or whatever, so I know I could use a tad more intiative.

Hi. I'm a young man (not under 18 years old though) and I believe I may lose my virginity soon, but I believe I may be seeing some possible problems. Please note that I'm a high-strung person and me being nervous is pretty far from unheard of to anyone who knows me. Of course, this will be addressed as a possible problem... First of all, what should I know in terms of what to do before during and after, etc.? For instance, things like foreplay and thus lubricating her lest she be in pain...I only now found out about how wet she is going to be thanks to these forums, so I feel kinda stupid and clueless. Now, to be more specific. I know that I will be nervous on my first time, so how much of a problem can that be? Does it cause a potential problem? And what could I do to make me less nervous, other than tell myself to maintain and all that? One particular problem I'm worried about is that it may feel simply too good for me to continue and perform properly. I'm sure whoever can give me advice understands what I mean, but to elaborate, sometimes when I masturbate I have to take it down a notch. I don't know how else to explain...I hope it's understandable. Also, I'm worried about, I guess, taking my shot...I dunno, I think I've been given plenty of signs that it's alright, but I'm just awful when it comes to initiative (I'm working on that). Also, keep in mind, this isn't someone I've known for very long and we aren't really even official (I'm a college student, hehe). What exactly should I do to move things along to that level? I'm always worried about being an asshole for coming off as someone who expects it or something. hopefully this will be my last question(s). I don't know how much "experience" she has, but it's probably a lot because she's my age and she's very sexy and attractive. I obviously do not have a lot of experience, so how much of a problem could this state of affairs be? She is a sweet girl and everything, and I would imagine that changes everything. How much does it change things if you, say, go from one person who has a lot of experience to someone who does not, and vice versa? I think that's it, I hope it is. Thanks a lot, I can't believe I don't feel stupid for doing this.