GirlGreen

i admit it. i am a virgin. and i now have a boyfriend that i love and that i believe i want to lose my virginity to. he is not a virgin and he deffinitly wants to have sex but the thing is, i am very nervous. i am scared that it will hurt a lot and the thing is, even when he fingers me, sometimes it hurts. what can i do to not be so nervous about this? i just want to keep putting it off because i am nervous even though i know i am ready.

but really its not that easy. the dream isnt only one single dream. it just made me realize how i felt about him, which i sorta new anyways. i dont think i would ever leave my boyfriend for his brothers best friend, but if my boyfriend and i arent together forever, how could i pursue things, purhaps, with his brothers best friend in the future...or could i? without being a horrible person. for now i know i will deffinitly stay with my boyfriend, while still completely enjoying the company of his brother and his brothers best friend.

okay so i have my boyfriend, who i absolutly love to death and he is so in love with me. even though we have only been dating for three months. but we see eachother every single day. usually we hang out at his house where you can typically find his brother and his brothers best friend. so i see them very often as well and they treat me like family and have told me how much they care about me. one time at a party my boyfriend and my boyfriends brothers best friend (who is pretty much a brother to my boyfriend) took me aside and his best friend told me how much i meant to him. and the thing is...i kinda have a crush on him. and in my dream the other night i ended up making out with him and i cant stop thinking about my dream! and it makes me question how much i want a boyfriend. and what if i am missing out on my chance with him because i am dating his best friends older brother!?

if it were up to me, i would date all three, my boyfriend, his brother, and his brothers best friend. WHAT SHOULD I DO TO KEEP MY MIND OFF OF MY BOYFRIENDS BROTHERS BEST FRIEND?!

Here is this thing. i would rather pleasure my boyfriend then be pleasured, and he is the exact same way. but the thing is, it feels good when hes fingering me, expecially when he is eating me out, but sometimes i just a little...err..irritated down there and it starts to hurt. he has done it to me pleanty of times but sometimes he just does it to hard and i tell him to do it more gently but it still sometimes hurts. you think that that would go away after i got used to being fingered,but it still doesnt. plus then i try to relax but sometimes i just cant and my legs will tighten together and we joke around about how i cant keep them apart but it really bothers me. most of the time when he is fingering me i just feel like i would rather have sex because i feel like it would feel a lot better. but i never have had sex sooo you would think that that would hurt more. but it seems like it would be a lot more gentle. i dont know.

any advise?

please, all the guys out there, please let me know how you like oral sex the best. give me in deep, detailed discritption on how to do it. because my boyfriend keeps hinting about how he wants it so bad but i am afraid i dont know quite what to do.....

give me tips so that i can be good!!!!!PLEASE

so i have given guys hand jobs and everything, i just want to be able to do it really well. how long until i have to stop, do i have to wait until he ejaculates? my hand gets so tired!! i want some good tricks and advise from guys who know how they like it or girls who know how that man likes it....

also, is it really bad if i stop before he ejaculates? because i have before because i just feel like he never is going to and my hand gets tired! but i would suck it up if i just knew it was coming, ha...ha...yaaa

im sorry robowarrior. i didnt read your post until now. i really think you put it in good words! i like what you said its something i believe as well. the only set back is that i HAVE had self confidence issues. mostly about my weight. however, im not fat at all and im able to admit that. im tall, im 5'9'' and i hate being consideded ''big'' i always think if i can just be very skinny people might consider me as ''small''.

Im getting over my eating issues, however, and your advice makes me think a lot. thank you. im working on being more outgoinig. i mean i think i am pretty outgoing, a lot of times its cause by my self confidence issue because i am attention seeking....but twords people that i worry what they will think about, like cute boys...haha...things get a little harder and my outgoingness(if thats a word) goes away..

Yes, i should show him that i am interested. but its hard for me to just, ask him out. and aS MUch as people tell me thats what i should do, it just wont happen. is there any other way that i could go about this? i was thinking about having me and my ''friend'' go over and sit with him some day, and i could just impress him more i guess....or something...i dunno.

i would think about telling her that im interested in him because then i believe she would help me out, she would. however the last time i told her about someone in the class i liked she would brag to me when she said hi to him or what not...

And about the ''radiance''. im not a sad person or anything, but being bubbly is just not my thing. i smile and laugh when things are funny but im not going to fake being smily. is that the only way i could give off this ''radiance''? i mean im sure it works. i just...dont want to be one of the girls who always seems to annoy me...

1: ok so there is this really cute guy in one of my classes. I would see him looking at me sometimes too! and then all of a sudden one of my ''friends'' in the class (i am not tooo fond of her just cause shes a * * * * but i guess she can be fun to talk to sometimes) told me, i think that guy is staring at me. now im not mistaken, he stared at me too and he would stare at her as well. anyways he asked to be her friend on myspace and called her over the weekend to hang out and she thinks its really weird, she doesnt even know how he got her number. i go to a big school, and so its just a little weird. anyways hes still really cute to me, and she has a boyfrend, but hes interested in her... I have a low self confidence at times so i would not normally say this, but no affence to her shes not very pretty. so what is it that a lot of guys see in her? how can i get that ''radience''? he still looks at me sometimes but not as much as he looks at her. im jealous, you could say. but not so much cause she doesnt really...enjoy it...i dont think. she has a boyfriend, like i mentioned before. anyways. help?

I think im in love with the german foreign exchange student in one of my classes. he is sooo cute. ok, im not really in love but im really attracted to him and i have only talked to him like, 3 times last quarter in a different class, and now hes in another one of my classes and i havent talked to him at all. i really want to get to know him but i dont know how to go about it. hes kinda shy so i couldent just go up to talk to him because, im not normally shy, but when it comes to someone i dont really know that i like, i think everything i would say would end up being stupid.

i just need some advise on how to approach him. i cant ask him about homework because its an art class and there is none, and he doesnt sit near me at all so i couldent compliment his work unless i went all the way over to him and that would be strange...help me please!!

The thing is, i have volleyball at night, right in the middle of my night. everynight. My eating scheduel has gotten off, and i eat before and after i come home, and the breakfast. (around 7 am, 4 pm, and 9 30 pm) so i dont eat at school. Now all my friends have started talking about me because they think i have an eating dissorder, although i really dont. its ok that they care it just makes me mad that they assume that i NEVER eat just cause i dont eat a lunch, and dont believe me when i tell them the truth.

What should i do?

Well its not just tingly feeling because i can feel it starting to happen and then all of a sudden it happens and then sometimes i dont feel like making out at much anymore, its really weird. but usually five minutes later i want to do it again. maybe it is just a ''tingly feeling'' but it wouldent feel that wat if he just touched me there, i have to be moving or something, im not sure.

And if it is just the tingly feeling, does that tingly feeling feel anything like an orgasm?

Can you get an orgasm while making out if the guys leg is like, between yours and hes rubbing your back? because i have felt something a lot when that happened and it feels really good in that area.

It was the same feeling as one time when he was rubbing me down there, even tho my jeans were on i got the same feeling.

Im sure its not a full orgasm but do you think its like a small one?

One night (last halloween) when i was hanging out with all my friends and my boyfriend. my boyfriend was secretly drinking without telling anyone and he just told me tonight like it wasnt a big deal! i was shocked! the only person that knew was my best friend or his past girlfriend which is dumb how she knew and he couldent even tell me! its really sad i think how it seems he can be more comfortable with her and how she knew but he didnt care to tell me, and i asked him why he didnt tell me and he said he didnt think it was a big deal.

i think thats a big deal it sorta affends me because its like, does he have to drink to have fun around me? i asked him if he did it anymore and he said no, maybe one more time besides that. i guess it bothers me the most how i didnt even know and my best friend knew. i was hanging out all with him that night and i didnt even know!

He also has made it seem like he drinks when he is down but that was the weekend we got back together, cause the past week he had broke up with me, and then he said he didnt know why he did he made a big mistake (hes a picies he thinks about things WAY to much) and he still loves me and wants to be with me. anyways, the night before was the night we officially got back together, and we were only broken up for four days or so.

i love him a lot and it seems like that is a serious problem for him, drinking, more then i thought. i thought he just did it with his friends for fun but he was doing it alone without telling anyone!! he also said he was barely even buzzed he just had the ''happy feeling''

Umm..i have the happy feeling when im with him alone i dont need to drink..

Now i dont wanna sound controlling but i wanna talk to him about it. sometimes he makes drinking sound like a big deal and he has told me he has problems with it. It seems its only a big deal when i do it tho, but he can drink one night without telling me and its not a big deal, i drink one night and call him and he, who is also drunk, yells at me for drinking! ugh he can be so impossible and i feel i dont have a lot of trust in our relationship but at the same time i love him a lot and he really is the perfect boyfriend, dont get me wrong. he is so nice to me and i know he cares a lot about me, i just wish i could trust him more.

I have not drank sense he yelled at me for drinking, also the next day we talked about it and he seemed very mad at me. he said hes going to stop and that i should too but its really my decision. let me tell you, he hasnt stopped, we have just stopped talking about it.

I think my boyfriend wants to finger me, the thing is, i have never even used a tampon. i dont want to tell him that however but i dont want him to get frustrated because i keep saying no. I know he doesnt care about that type of thing that much because he has told me, but i still feel like he wants more. This probly sounds stupid too.

Ok, im going out with this guy and we both like eachother a lot. We have been going out for 2 1/2 months but been ''together'' for like, six more before that.

Before we were going out my best friend (sally) would always flirt with him, just him, in front of me. She has attention and jealousy problems, but it would really make me sad because he would just go along with it, sense hes kinda a big flirt.

Her attention and jealousy problems - my other good friend (betty) liked this guy, and sally told me one time that she wanted betty to ask him out and he would say, ''no..i cant.. im in love with sally.'' When she said that i was just blown away because of how pure evil that statement was, because its not like she liked him or anything. awhile later i told betty that because i felt like she thought the same thing about my boyfriend. she wanted more then anything for him to like her unstead of me, even tho she didnt like him.

at lunch she would always sit next to him, and a lot of times she would end up sitting between us. once he was writing something on a piece of paper and she was like, oooo is that a love note to me?!!? and one time she like, was trying to talk to someone on the other side of him and would lay accross him.

During open hour, although i wasnt there and betty would tell me this, she would always ask him for a massage. and she would be all crabby to people and then once he came she would be like ''HIII BOB!!!!'' and be all nice to him

That started to go away once we got more serious because she probly relized she had no chance of stealing him away or anything.

Now, the last couple days my boyfriend and i have kinda been fighting, or not getting along as much (everything is taken care of now tho) and she has been taking advantage of that. one time just him and i were laying on the hammock and she came up and asked if she could lay with us. she layed down and then in a few minutes he said i need a headrest. so i put my hand there as his pillow, or something, and then she was like, here and she put her arm around his neck. they started flirting, like, right in front of me! he was like, i just wish it has a massage! shes like, too bad i cant massage out of my ELBOW. oh, well ill just do this and she started moving it, then i didnt really listen cause i ddint wanna hear them flirting.

Another time when we were still laying she came up and pretended to be giving him a handjob as a joke or something.

i know these arent much, but it just all adds up and she only seems to be flirting with him! no one else but him!

Its not that im over reacting because my friend betty came up and kissed both of us on the cheak and both us kissed each other and her on the cheak and i didnt care at all, it didnt bother me. but then i thought, wow if that were sally i would probly go and cry.

Now no one tell me to break up with him cause he shouldent be flirting with my best friend. i like him a lot and i know he likes me a lot, so thats not an option, and its not that easy.

when im around both of them everything she does bugs me and everytime they talk bugs me.

I talked to him about it. Well he was drunk, haha but i talked to him after that too when he was sober.

I started to notice he was only different around one of his friends, and i relized it was because that friend makes fun of him because its how hes dealing with his jealousy of my boyfriend for having a girlfriend.

He told me that he was very sorry and if he ever did it again i should hug him, then slap him, then kiss him and tell him hes being a jerk.

Thanks for all your help!

Thank you so much, that kinda makes sense, because sometimes his friends make fun of him for being whipped, even tho he isnt at all..

Well i would normally think that, but there are so many more things that say he still likes me, and plus he tells me, i mean he doesnt come out and say it...but you know.

like when we are together at the end of the night we flirt and kiss a lot and he always tickles me (im very tickelish) and i try and tickel him but it doesnt work....yahhh and like when my friend was driving us home we were in the back seat and he knew i was tired so he put his arm around me and told me to lay in his lap. little things like that make me love him, but little things like paying no attention to me makes me hate him. so at the begginging of the night i get mad and try to show him that it bothers me that he pays no attention to me, but he gets to me once we are laying there and i just cant give him the cold shoulder anymore, haha.....

When i hang out with a group of my friends, and my boyfriend is there he pays no attention to me until the end of the night when we are all on the couch watching a movie. Then we lay together and he puts his arm around me and we get along great. But the problem is, he pays absolutly no attention to me when we are doing other things-Bonfires, games, or just sitting around playing music.

like last night we went to my friends house and he had a bonfire and my friend and i got bored so we tried to get people to come to the park with us. i asked him to come and he was like, no i dont want to come, and then 2 of his best friends ended up coming with us unstead. we spent like, an hour at the park without him and they didnt even call us or walk over....its like if i didnt want to go to the park and he was going, i would probly wanna go just cause he was going.

I know that its not cause he doesnt know how to flirt, or pay attention to me cause this just recently started happening, and before we went out we would flirt and be together all the time. I feel like i follow him around sometimes, like when i come in a room within a minute he will leave. I dont know what to do!

i dont feel like talking to him about it yet, cause it might just be my imagination or he doesnt relize hes doing it and i dont want him to think i need a lot of attention. But i have talked to 2 of my friends and they both noticed it, and sometimes people comment on how we arent together ALL night.

what is he thinking?

What are some of the things guys like when your making out to make things more exciting, without going to far....?

Well what do you guys usually do when you feel a girl up. like how long is your hand up there, do you just continue kissing her...?

Or else what do you girls boyfriends usually do?

Im just curious, what should the girl do when the guy is feeling her up while kissing?

And also, what is he actually going to do?

Just wondering cause my boyfriend wants to and im gunna let him the next time we are together, i just wanna know whats gunna go down...haha

I know this guy and he told me that i was his closest friend that was a girl. But the thing is he doesnt have that many close girl friends. The thing is, i like him, so would that automaticully put me out of the picture, or would it maybe set me ahead cause hes closest with me?

A quick question

If a guy masterbates more is it less likely for him to get an erection when your kissing?