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im thinking of sending another email.. although i know its over... but saying stuff like "where are you? I'm waiting for you.. I will always be here for you..".. that would prolly confuse her.. cuz after all, she never told me it was over... it'd be kinda funny.. hrmph.. and i still want her back. im not gonna beg or plead.. im not gonna be mad... so maybe i'll screw around and try to have some fun... i could keep telling her im here waitng for her until she finally tells me.. problem is, can i heal if i do this?? prolly not...

sorry dude.. sounds like my post is opening up some of your old wounds... but there are some similarities.. her parents were divorced, although she was still close to both of them.. she ended living on her own at an early age... and the stuff about being the most loving person one moment and then changing... i think that may be the killer... its like she's a drug... and she gives you this artificial high with all the love (not normal in other relationships)... but then it wears down and the other side sucks... but you still want more... what i've learned is now when a girl becomes depressed or something, you gotta leave her alone cuz anything you do will be seen as insensitive or she'll hate you for it... ultimately, thats probably what triggered her leaving, cuz she thought my calls and emails were insensitive... and i think its my fault, but shoot, its her f'd up head... but i still think "what if i did this? or that?"... its tough to have no regrets... plus, the ldr made things even worse... damn, and after all that, i still want her back.... gotta quit her drug... hehe... anyway, try watching swingers... mike goes through the movie trying to forget his ex.. and the first scene is a good one which is like the so-called "no contact" rule...

thanks guys for your responses.. it is extremely clear that i should let it go and not contact her again... but my mind goes through painful cycles of letting it go to trying to save it, get answers, do at least something... the past week, i was thinking of sending one last email, but i haven't, mostly because i don't know what to write... i just don't think she's thinking straight... even if she did come around, her weak mind wouldn't be able to call me after all this mess... its just so disappointing.. although short, it was a relationship where everything about us fit right... but i lost her for no apparent reason....

what kind of girl or person breaks up without a word? i was in a long distance relationship (3 months together, 2 months LD) and she just stopped answering my calls and responding to emails... she did this just after she quit her job and interviewed for another one, and didn't get it... earlier in our relationship, she got fired, got mad at me, and we didnt' talk for a week.. but she came back saying she was "crazy" and she didn't want to talk about it... she's 25, had 5-6 ex's, and was in a 3-yr relationship 5 months before me (so i could have been a rebound).. but we had a very intense relationship where we fell for each other quickly.. and just a month before she was saying how she was in love with me... i dunno.. maybe she's unstable and a little bipolar... anyone have any insight (more than just that she's a coward or weak) on what types of people do this?