Hello,
I am new at this website so this is my first post. I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years now. I am 20 years old and live in the USA, whereas my boyfriend is 25 and lives in the Caribbean. I first met him when I visited the Caribbean with my best friend, and ever since then, we have kept in touch and long to see each other. There have been serious obstacles in the past that prevented us both from visiting, and it was all understandable, but now, those obstacles are slowly disappearing of our way.
I have read several articles regarding long distance relationships, and they give excellent tips into how to keep them going strong. We have not seen each other in 2 years, yet we have this going strong. I KNOW he is the one I want to be with and share my life with, yet as with all LDs, I am not too sure if he feels the same way. I email him EVERY DAY, despite my busy schedule with studies (I am a third year pre-med student). I try to call as often as I can, at least once a week (international rates are hard to manage), and I try to call him more than he calls me, as I have better deals on phone cards than he does. On the other hand, just recently, i've noticed that I am doing everything to keep this going strong, and he is not even there sometimes to satisfy me with his daily news. His excuse for not writing is always "busy with work", or "bad internet connection". When he does write is no more than 1kb, and I don't want to be very demanding and force him to sit on a computer, but he needs to realize that I just need more from him. I am indeed tired of letting him know how I feel and what I expect out of this relationship. At least in the beginning, things were better, and now I feel that his "passion" has faded, even though he says it hasn't. I have found myself constantly wondering and suspecting about him, when I know that he would never hurt me like that. I know him that well, but at the same time, I do not want to be the fool.
We don't know what the future holds for us, and when we will finally settle down together, but the belief and the desire is there. I feel I need more security than that, and I don't know if "belief" and "trust" is everything I need to feel "satisfied". I send him cards, gifts, flowers, and everything else you can imagine, because I KNOW it is twice as hard to keep a long distance relationship going than it is to keep a regular one. On the other hand, I have never received ONE card from him (and one that he sent with a lot of pictures never got here), no flowers, no gifts. I don't expect material things from him, and I shouldn't be complaining as I told him not to send me anything bacause of the high obstacles standing in our way. I don't know what to think of this anymore. I love him very much as I have never loved another individual and will never love another individual any time soon, however, I feel I need more from him, and I am tired of asking. If any of you have any comments or tips, please feel free to send me a reply. I really need to hear what you think. Thank you for your time...
