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I'm currently working and would like to quit and go to another company. Is it bad ethics to take day off from my current company to go to an interview with another company? I want to find and secure a new job first before quiting. How should I do this?

ops, I posted this post in the wrong forum. Can somebody move this post to the friends forum?

I'm into surfing and I found a local group of people with the same interest. When we hang out together, I feel neglected because most of them don't really ask me anything about myself. I'm pretty friendly and I can't think of a reason why they would hate me.

The same thing happens at work. There are 3 guys at my work place and they don't really want to get to know me even though I have tried to get to know them.

I'm not sure if this is the cause but I feel that my looks has something to do with it. I'm a bit below average in looks and I read that people tend to open to people with good looks and associate good qualities with those people. I feel that because of how I look, people do not give me a chance.

Is this common when being a new member of a group?

I'm 23 and is in the same situation as your friend. I have problems with connecting people and is currently trying to change that.

Finding a GF is a personal goal of mine and when friends or family try to introduce me to girls, I resist. I want to meet a girl on my own and I feel that I will fail myself let somebody introduce a girl to me.

It is a longshot but maybe your friend is trying to figure things out on his own?

I know that honesty is important when it comes to building trust and relationship but how much is too much? Is there something that you wouldn't share with others or be honest about even though you believe in honesty?

I tried to be like him and made a bad first impression on some people in one of my college classes. Some of the people in my class are aloof when I try to talk to them. I did a social experiment and it didn't go well. I guess life is about making mistakes and learning from them.

What are some ways I can change the bad first impression that I've made on the people who are in my college class?

1. He's ok looking. He is talented and good at a lot of things.

2. I don't really know his dad.

3. not that I know of.

Does he have a good sense of humour?

 

I knew a guy who is the cockiest, jerkiest human being on the planet, but he's hilarious. If a person can make you laugh, for some reason when you're around this guy it's hard not to like him, and people do give him respect to his face.

 

Although, when we were apart from him we talked behind his back quite often, but it's not like he didn't do the same to us.

 

I don't know. Some people that you wouldn't think likeable just are sometimes. I think humour has a big part of it most of the time. At least my situation did.

Yes he does have a sense of humor and his humor ALWAYS revolves around making fun of other people and guys in the group. He makes fun of them in a funny way. So yeah, he'll make fun of you but if he makes you laugh then I guess it cancel out.

The funny thing is I actually tried to emulate his personality but it didn't work out for me. People thought I was a jerk (In a bad way).

I have a group of friends and there is a guy that is a jerk. He always make fun of people and other guys in the group. Another thing is that he is extremely cocky. If he good at something, he'll make sure that you know it. The weird thing is that the other guys in the group likes to be around him and give him respect. He makes a lot of calls.

Why does this happen? I've been taught to treat people with respect and they will want to be with you but this guy does the opposite and it is working for him. I guess people like this are more exciting?

I can't seem to make any friends. I have tried everything including being myself and nothing (i'll explain).

believe it or not I have been trying to solve my loneliness problem for the last 7 years. At first I though I didn't have any social skills so I did research and learned it. No improvement. I tried being extra nice. No improvement. I tried being myself. No improvement also. By the way, I consider myself to be a nice guy. I'm not a loud obnoxious * * * * *. Anyway, No improvement. I still didn't make any close friends. Finally I tried to do nothing at all. I thought that maybe I came off as a desperate guy. I stopped trying, didn't really talk to anybody and just cruising through the day by myself. No improvement.

At this point i'm not sure what to do. I'm 23 and I don't have a GF yet. At this "doing nothing" stage, I feel so hopeless. I felt better when i'm myself but that did not solve my problem.

Is it better to be a nice guy or a jerk in this world? Maybe it is just me, but jerks get more respect, more friends and more girls in my experience.

how about dating problems such as anxiety when approaching women? What r u guys doing to combat the problem?

I don't think you need to do anything about shyness. I've always been really shy and I learned to embrace it as part of who I am. In doing so I became more comfortable with myself and see that I am just fine as I am. I'm not the most outgoing person, not the most sociable and comfortable in large groups. But I can get along with people. I'm happy just the way I am. And people seem to like me just fine, girls included.

I'm different. I'm shy and i'm not confortable with it. I feel that shyness is not me.

What r u doing and how is it working out?

I'm current using the Desensitization method to get over my fear. u can see it at

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Has anyone done it and if so what's ur list of fears look like?

Do you make eye contact with men on the street or do you look alway? By eye contact I mean looking for at least than 3 sec.

I was walking thru a book store today and a girl is walking towards me. When I was near her she kinda turn her head to the left and pretended to be interested in a book on the sheft. Does this mean anything?? I doubt she's really interested in a book because it was right on cue. Maybe she was repel by me but it doesn't really matter to me. It's just one of those thing that I wonder about.

how could you be shy to each other when ur gf and bf?

how long does it usually take for others to warm up to you after the first conversation?

Do people like people who has a lot of friends better than people who do not? When trying to make friends, i feel like they are judging me based on the fact that i don't have a lot of friends. From my POV, most people only want to get to know you if you have a lot of friends so they make friends with your friends. I see a lot of boring people who people try to get to know better because they have connections.

I used to be shy but now i'm a lot better and talk a lot more. Even though i talk more, i'm still having a hard time making friends because people do not seem to warm up to me like i do to them. I'm pretty nice btw.

i'm a 22 college student and have been unsuccessfully trying to make close friends for the last 4 years. I do have some close friends from HS but now I don't talk to them anymore because I feel that they treat me like crap and it is better to stay away from them. Anyway I have no problem initiating a conversation with people and is far from being anti social. The problem I'm having is with people not warming up to me. I feel that i'm warming up to them but they are not returning the favor. First meeting with people is always fun but the second time I see them it is like we have never met. I tried to say hi but they avoid eye contact or give me a glance and look away. I consider myself to be a pretty good guy. My motto is "Be a good person and treat people like how you want to be treated" and I practice it! I see people worst than me personality wise making friends and it makes me jealous.

People seem very social and want to make friends if you look at websites like myspace or xanga but it doesn't seem like it in real life.

Is there something wrong with me? For years I have been trying to find the answer. People around me seem to have no problem making friends, and I see that they are no different than I am. Maybe the problem with me is I think I have a problem making friends but in reality I really don't. I am a social person and it is killing me not having anyone to talk to. I need some help fast.

Is it necessary to have eye contact and a smile from a girl if i'm going to approach her? What if there is no eye contact and smile? Do I still have a chance if I approach? A lot of time girls look at me and I look back and they look away to the side or down. Is there time when a girl is interested but no showing it by eye contact or a smile? I never approach a girl that doesn't give a smile and I haven't receive any for a while now. Thus i've been single. I don't think i'm brad pitt but at the same time not the hunch back of notre dame.

Hey, I know this sounds quite stupid but have you guys/gals any idea how to meet potential lovers?

 

I don't really have any chances to meet guys because my school is an all girl school. When I fall for someone in extra class, he seemed to make a fool out of me. How do I make sure it doesn't happen again?

 

And how do i talk to guys without getting nervous? Everytime one catches my eyes, I'll look away. When one talks to me, I can only mutter 'yes', 'no' and etc.

 

Any advise? Thanks in advance.

Ur just like me . I bet if we ever meet on the street, we'll probably think we hate each other cause of how u and I r shy and doesn't make eye contact and seems uninterested by answering with yes and no.

Say i'm walking down the street and I notice a girl walking towards me but she doesn't notice me or doesn't make eye contact. Do I still have a chance? I also assume that for me to have a chance, a girl must notice me or make eye contact. Is my way of thinking right?

What is a good place to meet girls if ur alone and don't have many friends? I'm kinda shy so I don't have many friends and i'm kinda embarrass about it. I try not to let people know i'm lonely. Is it just me or do other people feels the same way?

cool. Keep us updated on the progress.

whats is going on with the ask 20 people out? is it some kind of program u in? Sorry about u being turned down but I give u full credit plus a point for being so brave! I wish I can be like u. have a drink on me!