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Thanks for your advice. I am really unsure of what to do. Everything about this guy is great accept the jelousy. We talk about it alot and he says that he has never been like this. The problem is I feel he is co dependent on my because he moved down to S. Florida 5 months ago and I am the only thing in his life. Saturday night I went to South Beach with friends, guys and girls that I work with and all week prior I was drilled as to what I was wearing and who was going and he wanted me to call him when I was going home so I could stop by his place. And I got defensive because I feel like I am being put on the spot all the time. He says he's just communicating with me. And he tells me he makes comments about what I wear because If I'm going to a club and looking sexy than guys will view me as I am looking to be picked up. I told him that he wants a sexy woman but can't handle it. But then I feel guilty because I was out until 4:30am Saturday night. Is being in a relationship the same as being married, are the rules the same??? I'm starting to feel like it is. The only reason why this relationship will not work out is because he and I do not agree that fact that we do not have to be joined at the hip 24/7 and he feels that we are a couple and couples should do things together.

My bf and I have been committed to each other for 3 months. Last weekend I saw a side of him that has me concerned. 3 1/2 months ago my Company told the employees that they were paying for a Keys weekend. I went back and forth as to whether I wanted to bring my bf because I am only 4 months out of a marriage and wanted this weekend to be for me and get to know the people I work with and my girlfriends. Well my bf guilted me into taking him and I told him that if he comes we would be going to a party Friday night and I didn't want any guilt trips of having to leave early or being afraid to be me. He makes comments all the time about not trusting guys and he says it's not jelousy, it's that he's protecting me. Anyway, Friday night he was ready to leave and I was not and we got into a fight and he ended up leaving and I stayed, when he left he called me a slut and the next morning he asked me how it felt to sleep with someone else. I have NEVER given my bg any reason to not trust me, I am a very honest person. This weekend my friends want to go to South Beach and this is the first time since we started dating that I am going out without him. He is now dictating to me what not to wear and saying things like, who are you trying to impress. Even though I have never done anything to make him act this way I am feeling guilty like I have. Please someone give me some advice and what to do. I really like this guy but I think it's healthy to every now and then go out without each other and be able to have a good time apart. [/i]