Destiny2112

I have a story too... I heard about it on TV recently. The 2 singers of the German Hip Hop Band Freundeskreis met in 1999, got married soon after that. Had 2 children in 2001 and 2003. For whatever reason, they seperated and got divorced in 2007. And now, beginning of 2011 they are officially back together!!

Today I heard rumours on the radio, that Rihanna got back together with her ex from 2006 Negus Sealy (Her first love, with whom she was together before she became famous).

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Well this is not a "and they lived happily ever after" reconciliation- story, but I would still like to post it.

My friend M had a boyfriend called S. They were together for 3 years until S suddenly, out of the blue, broke up with M and completely disappeared from her life until this very day. As M found out later, S went back to his ex and they were together for 2 more years until it ended again (I don't know the reasons). S and his ex were in NC during the entire time of his relationship with M. Only at the end of S's relationship with M, he had run into his ex and probably old feelings started to show up again.

Well, M was really devastated and heartbroken, but that break up turned out to be a blessing for her eventually, since she has now found the love of her life, F, and is getting married to him on 1 st July. She met him a few months after S had left her. That was 5 years ago now.

So reconciliations do happen! And even if that is not always the case, sometimes that's for the best, in order for you to meet the true love of your life. Either way, everything will be fine eventually!!

Agree.....if the other person is already in a relationship, I think it's better not to disturb for a while.

It's a matter of respect.....

(i.e. I think nobody likes their bf/gf makes contact with their ex...

& you don't want to put our beloved ex in trouble..... it's a kind of love)

Yes, it definetely is a matter of respecting and accepting their decision and give them all the time and space they need and it's a way of "loving" them from afar. If we were in their shoes and in a new relationship, we wouldn't want our ex's to "bother" us all the time either... time will tell, what is going to happen. Probably, once we are fully healed, we wouldn't even take them back or at least wouldn't care anymore if they returned or not....

Agree! So I would agree with "NC for a period of time. And low contact when you feel "really ready" to talk"

 

And for initial contact, keep the talks light, relaxing and .....most importantly, pleasant & happy =)

 

Everybody wants to be with someone who's happy~

I guess, if the dumper is in a new relationship, it's better to wait for them to iniciate contact. I wouldn't want to interfere in their relationship... so I would rather wait for them to contact me and then decide if/ how to react to their attempt...

Let's see, your ex is getting married to someone else? For your good, you REALLY need to let this go. Reading these kinds of stories is just going to prolong your healing. Life isn't a Hollywood movie.

Thanks for your concern, but I know and have accepted that there is 0 chance that my ex will ever return to me and it's definetely over for good with us since he is getting married and yes, I have definetely experienced myself that my own story is absolutely no love story from a Hollywood movie with an happy ending!

Please, don't misunderstand, I'm not reading these stories to keep MY hope for reconcilition alive. I'm just reading these stories, since they make me happy and cheer me up, it's like a little escape from the harsh reality I have to face with my own break up. These stories don't give me any false hope, I know my ex will never return to me That's sad, but true... So in my case, I don't see any harm in reading these stories, I can distingiush between reality and fantasy ;-)

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An old member with a great story: =

 

So yeah it happens a lot! But I do think you need to let go, think about what went wrong and regain your confidence first and if they come back great, if not you will be fine anyway.

Thanks for sharing these stories!! It cheers me up when I read what real love can do...almost anything seems possible Love these stories!!!

Don't know if this is really a success story, but I'm going to tell it anyway...

A friend's friend was with her boyfriend for about 2 years, they moved in together quite soon. They fought quite often about little things, but still couldn't be without eachother, I think it was a typical case of love- hatred- relationship.

Well, one day, they both agreed on breaking up, since they didn't find themselves very compatible and got tired of the arguments, so each of them went separate ways and they both found new relationships. They were apart for approximately 1 year and had NC or very very little contact throughout that time. Maybe a short email every few months, just light stuff, no begging, pleading... after a couple of months, the guy added "I miss you" at the end of the few emails they sent each other. She said, this still touched her heart and made her realize, although she was with someone else, she still had feelings for her ex. So a couple of months later, they agreed on meeting up for a cup of coffee. When they saw eachother, all the emotions came to the surface again, it was as if they never were apart, all the strong feelings were still there, even after one year, with very little contact. Each of them left their partners and they got back together. They remained together for one more year, but the arguments didn't really stop, they still weren't very compatible, so they finally broke up again, 2 months ago.

Despite the fact that they broke up, they will soon go on vacation to Thailand for 1 month and they will go together...but just as "friends"...;-)

Once again, I just love your stories Thanks for sharing!!!

Faithful, I LOVE your stories!!! Thanks so so much for sharing!!! Gives me hope that true love always finds its way, no matter what... although I don't believe in a happy ending with my ex... unfortunately ...haha, but who knows, maybe in 10 years down the line, I can share my own success story ;-)

Last year my current boyfriend broke up with me on December 6th after dating for a wonderful 3 months for out of fear, doubts and communication problems. I remember coming to this forum last year afterward seeking help and advice. We have been back together for 5 almost 6 months now and are better and stronger than last year. I just want to take the time to say thank you to everyone on this forum who helped me not lose faith throughout 2010.

 

If you want to read the full story, look up my profile threads.

 

Tonight gave me great hope for 2011, here is what he texted before going to bed.

 

"You are the best gf in history *kiss* I swear to smother you in love as you deserve, always!

Hey Maramoan,

I just looked through your threads and read your story! I'm very very happy that it worked out for you two in the end!!! I truly believe, no matter what others say, love will find it's way, if it's truly meant to be!! Congrats!! And the text you received is very cute!!

May I ask you, if you were dating any others during the time apart??

J, I'll have my birthday in less than 2 weeks... For the past 3,5 years, we used to spent that special day together, I was always looking forward to that day, to being with you...This year everything is different, you are gone, you left me, just walked away from me, you broke my heart... I suppose, I won't even get a happy birthday from you...I guess, I'll never ever hear from you again... you don't care about me anymore, you made clear to me that I belong to your past, that you moved on, that you are happy with someone else.... and it's killing me, to image you with her...

....and even if I got a message from you, would it make me feel better? No, it wouldn't! Unless you would tell me, you loved me unconditionally, that you made the biggest mistake in your life by letting me go, that you would do and show me anything possible on earth to win my heart back... unless you apologizes for all the pain and suffering you caused...unless you could make me trust you again and believe you would stay with me forever and never ever hurt me again... but this won't happen anyway...so no, hearing from you wouldn't change how I'm feeling.

Even though I'm telling myself, no, I don't expect anything from you anymore, I don't mind to not hear from you on my birthday... I know it's a lie, I know, HOW disappointed I'm going to be, when I don't hear from you..... the truth is, I hope so much, you'll be thinking of me, you'll remember my birthday, that deep down inside you still care for me, that you regret your choice...that you'll never forget about me, your first love....but that is just my fantasy, not reality...

Do you have an idea, how much you hurt me, how much I'm suffering because of you? I don't think, you have a single clue... You were my world, my everything, the love of my life, I would have done EVERYTHING for you, I loved you more than I have ever loved someone before in my life...you KNEW all that, but yet you just threw everything we had away, as if it never meant anything to you, you just walked away and haven't looked back... I wish it was as easy for me to move on and to to forget what we had, as it is for you! Why is it so easy for you to move on? Why have you lied to me when you told me, how much you loved me, how perfect I was for you, that you can't picture your life without me, that you can't picture yourself with another girl??? How could you fall in love so easily? What happened to us, to all the plans we had for our future?? I wish I could hate you, that would make it so much easier for me to get over you... but I can't, my heart still belongs to you and I hate it, I don't want to love you anymore, I don't want to miss you anymore, I don't want to think about you anymore all the time, I don't want to suffer anymore.... I want to be happy again...but damn it, I still love you, I guess I always will... why can't I stop loving someone, who doesn't deserve me, who doesn't deserve my love... I miss you Goodbye...