anondont

Actually that was helpful, cause I realized that it's a sort of mix of C and D... I had thoughts that maybe I was just the next in the line because she's been with virgins before (even though that's not true, I know her better than that, but it still lurks in the back of my head). And she also was taken advantage of, rather, raped would be a better word, by an extended family member, earlier on in her life. When I found that out, that made me beyond angry to the point that I put holes in my wall. Hearing her tell me that it was six other guys I guess had a revival of that emotion. Any more advice is still appreciated, thanks alot

I have an excellent relationship going on right now, I could not be happier with it. The other night I was laying down with her and we were talking. I knew she wasn't a virgin before me (I was, but it never bothered me before that she wasn't) but I asked her how many guys she has been with before me, expecting an answer of only a couple. The answer was six, and for some reason that seemed really high to me! I am perfectly fine with it, and I assured her that it wouldn't be a problem (I am not a pushy guy and I love her very much, we've been going steady for 8 months now). But now, I can't get it out of the back of my head that she's been with 6 other guys before me! I keep picturing her with other people and it disgusts me, and I just don't know how to handle it. I guess this would be considered jealousy, although I've never been a jealous person, but I just want to get it out of my head! I don't want to confront her about anything, cause I realize that the past is the past, what's done is done, it shouldn't be lingered over... but if someone has advice on how I can dismiss this issue, it would be great.