I am married for a second time. We got married last April. Last year was somwhat crazy but wonderful. Now we have got a big problem. 99% of his evenings he spends on the Internet playing computer games, mostly bridge. He begins approximately 9 pm and keeps going till at least 1 am (rather seldom), many times 3 am (most often), sometimes even 6:30 am (sometimes but he would do it more often if I let him). Because we are running our business from home, he plays also many times during the day. Evenings are most terrible for me. After a hard day of work I would like to cuddle, talk, watch movie together, make plans, but he is not available. When I am asking him to spend some time with me because I feel bore or lonely he says he is not my toy. Nothing helps, talking, pleading, crying, screaming ...... Once he tells me he understands me and this will change so this evening he would watch the moview with me falling asleep after half an hour and begins to play after I go to bad and fall sleep. Then he would try to be in bed before 3 am. Like this is the best it gets. But the next day he gets back to his routine. I love him. He is a good man. We are made for each other. What shell I do? I cannot take this any longer. Am I too possesive? How much free space a guy needs? Am I expecting too much? Shell I be alone every or 99% of the evenings. Shell I ALWAYS go to bad alone and wake up when he is deeply asleep because of the last night? Most of his duties regarding business or home he would do but only as much as is absolutely necessary. I am tired, confused and in despair. Please help me to anderstand this. I understand he should have a hobby but isn't this too much? What should I do?
