Jonah

Just a few additional facts. We have been married 20 years. This is my second marriage and I have been "trying" for years now. She is engaged in a cyber-affair with a man that consists of teleconferencing with exhibitionism and mutual masturbation. This is not a problem for me. The problem is that I find her naive and juvenile. Sexually and socially, she bores me so that I become angry and frustrated. I appreciate all of your observations and suggestions.

I want to end my marriage. However, when I initiate a conversation about separation, she exhibits such tremendous emotional anguish that I weaken and tell her that we will work it out. I feel frustrated and very guilty about this. It is not going to get better, my feelings are the same. I am just here. Any advice would be appreciated.