BryanBiff

When I kiss a girl I WANT to be turned on by her and I want her to be turned on by me. That doesn't mean that we will have sex and if she wants to be abstinent, thats cool. But I expect to be physically attracted to her and that means my body is going to show it.

ZeldaPrinces, Why is it "not ok" for a guy to get turned on by kissing a girl? Isn't that like a normal reaction? If I'm kissing a girl that I really like - or even think about it - then I get turned on. Otherwise I might as well be kissing my grandma. So yes, I get an erection. But that doesn't mean I flaunt it or make the girl feel uncomfortable or pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want to do. Usually its the opposite - I try to make it not that obvious. That's self control. Truthfully, I haven't had that much experience with girls, so I let the girl be in control of the situation - she tells me how far I can go. Bryan

ZeldaPrinces, I totally get that and I totally respect you and your bf for that ... but I still think you don't quite understand the young male anatomy. You assume if a guy pops one, he is making a sexual advance or disrespecting you in some way. And thats just not the way it is. Believe me, we get totally unwanted erections a lot of time. Its part of nature. Help me out guys! Bryan

ZeldaPrinces, If your bf was in his underwear and you touched him down there and he didn't get hard then he's got a lot more self-control than most guys, that's all I can say. Believe me thats not the case with most young guys - we just get a reaction and it gets hard and the more we try to wish it away the harder it gets Bryan

Zeldaprinces, I hear what you're saying but a guy can't help it when he gets an erection. Its a physical response to the situation, to being turned on. I've gotten an erection just talking to a girl and believe me it can be very embarrassing. I didn't intend to be disrespectful. Also, its quite possible your bf got a boner, but just hid it. Bryan

>>Is it painful for a guy when he doesn't "take care of" his erection? Its uncomforable yea >>How long does an erection typically last? Depends on how long he's stimulated I guess. I can go a long time, lol. >>What are some ways that I could show him that I'm aware of his erection and that I like it without just coming out and saying it?>> I think if you feel it through his pants and then just keep right on kissing he'll know its ok. Now a question for you girls: Do your boyfriends "leak" during long make out periods? I do and its very embarrassing - if I'm wering khakis, sometimes I get a huge wet spot I have to hide.