andigirl8383

I do think it was unfair for her to dump this on you, especially after numerous times of talking about having kids BEFORE the marriage. That is something she should have definitely been up front and honest about before she jumped into this mess. But! You do have to respect her choice not to have children. I know how it is to feel like the only woman on the planet who doesn't want children. It's frustrating because people are always asking, "Why don't you want them?" "Don't you want to be happy?" Don't do that to her. She's making a fair judgement for herself. Most times, it's best if someone doesn't want kids to NOT have them. So don't pressure her into having them. That will only bring a child into the world to a mother who really didnt' want it in the first place. Would you want to expose a helpless, innocent child to that? I say if it's that truly important to you to have babies, then you need to tell her that you just can't live with it. And if she really does feel the way she says, then you need to leave. There's no hope for you in a marriage when you're going to be resenting your wife for something she simply has a right to feel. It's not going to work. You cannot make a marriage work when one person resents the other.