GetMeBack

Thanks honey spur. I feel myself getting there..

I look forward to doing small things alone like watching a film

Or

Indulging in a chocolate milkshake like I did yesterday..

I guess I am GETTINGMEBACK. haha

DAY 16 WOOHOO!!

Well DAY 17 APPROACHING SLOWLY BUT SURELY

I really cant believe I have found the strength to do this..

I have had days where I cry myself to sleep, like last night.

But I would rather poke my eye out then call him.

I have found that this NC is giving me some self - respect.

I dont want to be giving someone FREE love, who clearly is not reciprocating

those feelings.

He is still on my MSN but blocked and I see him sign in and out . He will

probably be blocked for another couple of months at least too.

I miss the closeness of a relationship and that fuzzy feeling you get when

you see them. But I dont miss him specifically. He never had anything to

offer me. He never bought me flowers, in fact he never bought me anything.

I am proud of myself that I am getting there and I am keeping faith that I

will find someone one day that will cherish me, my hopes, my dreams

and will love me truly.

ok well halfway through day 15 and i can honestly say all urge has gone to contact him...

Oh baby I am... it's even better, that I've got 3 guys chasing me too! All lovely, sexy and have so much more t give me than he had. How you doing? You good? xxx

3 guys wow. Honey when you going to help me out. I need this london trip asap!. I need me a decent man lol. Joking Aside. I am cool. Day 15 NC TOMORROW WOOHOO!!!

He text me!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA... God that felt good... feels even better knowing he isn't getting a reply! wooo hoo!!

 

He said he is sorry for snapping at me the last during an email (he swore and used cap-locks - i told him there was no need to get angry with me, and I wouldn't contact him anymore)... well I don't think he thought I could do it and has come running with his tail between his legs saying sorry and asking how I am... blah blah!!

 

Life without is soooo good, I have no need to reply. Guys... keep up no contact!!! I'm on a high now!

Run with that feeling hun run with that feeling!

 

I think I would talk to him when you feel like you could not give two flying f*** if he wanted you or not. You will know when that day comes. until then, just ignore his sorry a**. My ex is blocked until that day comes for me too hun. Well done on day 42, my idol! x

And hey now everyone knows my name is MONIQUE HAHA

You're doing great Monique!

Am on day...42 now?

 

Yeah after all that has been said and done, I don't quite know what else I have to say to him except two words "eff off" haha.

 

But he's been expressing his wish that he hopes I can still talk to him at least.

Should I even?

I think I would talk to him when you feel like you could not give two flying f*** if he wanted you or not. You will know when that day comes. until then, just ignore his sorry a**. My ex is blocked until that day comes for me too hun. Well done on day 42, my idol! x

Hi Amore and welcome to the NC Challenge. I am halfway of the challenge and I can tell you now it wont be easy but you will feel yourself becoming more and more stronger and eventually liberated.

Dont beat yourself up about the begging you did at the start of the break up. All of us on here have done it . To some degree, I think its a good thing because least your ex knew how you really felt about them.

I will say though, that your ex is an a** for telling you he wants to see if there is better out there? Who does he think he is? Something special I guess. Is he the same age as you? wow...

Whatever you do, do not become friends at least not straight away anyway. If he forces friendship on you he is doing it for his own selfish gain. It benefits him and it relieves the guilt of the breakup on his part. I know this because my ex never claimed that we were " friends" but I was his counsellor, friend e.t.c I was his FRIEND basically and it sucks!. Now is time to think about you, instead of we. we is no more with you and your ex as much as that hurts.

Maybe distancing yourself from the mutual friends might be a good idea for a little while. Strict NC maybe impossible becuase your practically living on his door step but I would make communication very brief. Dont ask him " how he is? " as who cares? Try not to think about whether he will like the NC or not, your feelings are not there to be played with and when he broke up with you he lost all rights to have a say in what decisions you make with your life. And thats tough love..

Hope that helps hun..

x

DAY 14NC WOOHOO TOMORROW I WILL BE HALF WAY WOOHOO NEVER THOUGHT I COULD DO IT BUT I FEEL SO GOOD 1:

Ok I broke down yesterday and just texted "hope you're smiling today". She responded w/ how this just isn't her year, no time lately for herself, feels like she's going nuts. First year in a while since we've not actively been in each others lives. I'm actually doing better than those years as far as progressing w/ life, my emotions are obviously screwy though. She on the other hand pretty much a mess.

 

Not really sure what to say...or do I just not respond at all?

I wouldnt respond, its not your fault her life is now a pile of rubbish. I would think about yourself hun .

Thats how I feel about things too Lilbear. Not sure after all this NC there will be anything left to say. My ex is online now but he is blocked so he cant see me online status. I n one hour, I will be on 14 days NC. woohoo.Never thought in a million years I could do it. I know one thing for sure. I am never initiating contact with him. It feels good to say that, save myself the pain and heartache.

Day 41

He nudged me when I relogged into MSN last night.

But he said nothing in the past few days. Just pure plain nudging.

Hey lilbear well done you. Thats just plain lame. Do you think you will talk to him at some point...or are you going to wait till you have no feelings for him x

how you been doing isparkle? you still in NC? X

haha that made me laugh , I would sell my grandmother. I know the feeling. I am feeling soooooooooooooooooo blue today just made a post in the healing section. Your plan for the evening sounds fun mockchop xx

Yeah I know how you feel Irishjax. I am on day 12 today and I missed him a lot yesterday but im doing ok. And getting stronger..I can feel it..

toughtimes that is what really annoys me about them when they break up with us. They broke up with us because they didnt want us around, so when we disappear they cant hack it! Madness!

Am approaching day 5 NC, starting to not want his sorry a** back. Feeling the best I have felt in months. I hope this liberation lasts..

Haha lilbear there is no escaping it! Your going to make the 30 days! yay lilbear woop woop!

That article was brilliant jade! It made me feel so much better about things. Thanks for sharing x

Hun, you wasnt close to having her back. She plays games with you and she thinks only of herself. Remember I used the fisherman analogy a little while back. Things havent changed hun!. I read somewhere once, that we have to stop and ask ourselves " IS OUR PARTNER/EX MAKING US HAPPY?" I dont mean some of the time, on rare occasions, not that often, but Does our partner/ex make it clear in his actions every day that your happiness is important to him? If your answer is no to this samantha and I know it is, you have to cut her loose and go NC again. She is an a** for hurting you this way!

Whats the time difference in malaysia, its only 4.30 in the afternoon in the Uk? Meaning its still valentines day, as c*** as it has been

Well I am coming towards the end of day 1 NC. He hung up on me last night 3times, the last time he didnt even call back. I think I am going to stick to it this time. So far, every time I have broken NC, more harm than good has come out of it. I just want to heal and move on with my life. I am not sure if I want him back now.

i know the feeling bostoneric...its been over a month since he left and everything just keeps getting me down. I'm hoping after 30 days no contact we can talk but i dnt know that he will want to talk to me even then today is day 6

I feel so down today I feel sick!. The realisation that he really doesnt love me is setting in and its making me feel dizzy

I am so happy that your feeling in control today hun I am feeling down once again! Do you have msn? x

Day 2 today, felt sick when I woke up. Last words were " dont contact me unless you want to be with me"

When I was younger, I had dreamt that the man for me would love me forever and never leave me. Fairytale I guess but I think if someone truly loves you they work through any problems you may have.

My ex's actions are not what I had in mind for the " one ".

I know he doesnt love me his actions are speaking loud and clear and thats what hurts.