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err has anyone noticed that honeyspur has gone?

where is she?

I really need her inspiration right now..

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Ok so in 52 minutes

I will be on Day 11 NC...

aarrrgh just got an awful urge this evening to call him.

But I know I wont break NC as i have done it before and it so werent worth it...

Oh well..

Day 10 today NC phase 2.

I noticed I think of him less and less which is good but kinda scares me..

I mean I loved him and now I hardly think of him sometimes...

What happened?

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Day 10 in 3 hours...woohoo..x

Day 9 for me

I FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL

GOOD

UGGHH! I broke NC last night. We text back and forth for 4 hours. He kept telling me that the next man who found me would be very lucky. That I was an awesome, beautiful person. Then why doesn't HE want me?! Geez! This is driving me nuts! Then he sent me a text offering "anytime, anywhere" and told me it was an offer only extended to me. Then he sent some "pics". What is his deal? Anyone? Help me out here, please!

I am getting known for having a tough love reputation around here...

But... his anytime , anywhere offer spells booty call...

I did thiswith my ex and you just lose your self worth dont even think about it no matter how much you miss him..once you start going down the route from girlfriend to fwb you might as well kiss any reconcilliation good bye..

I would disappear like a ship in the night..this toad is allowed to get away with this bs because your allowing it...

sorry hun..but I hope this helps..xx

Hi hosvius..I dont want to pp your bubble or anything..but if someone loves you why the hell would they want space from you? They knew what life was like without you before they met you....

Day 8 NC for me..phase two.

Feeling good. Me and my friends have booked a holiday for my 22nd birthday..Still 4 months away but something to look forward to nonetheless..

Am also on a new diet too so feeling good about that..

Also sorted out about getting a part time job too..whilst at uni

When I think of him I dont really feel anything..there is no missing of him..just nohing. is that supposed to happen.

I just feel more disappointed with myself that i put up with this s*** for so long. He is deleted and blocked on my msn..

I have no reason to engage in any conversation on there with him. I am expecting him to contact me soon about some interview results and I think he wanted to talk about meeting me too...but I know that would be just to sleep with me ....SO ..I will be ignoring any contacts..

I have been reading over and over on different forums and in the famous book "he is not that into you" greg states that if they are not calling you up to say i miss you and i want you back. Nothing else warrants a response...

I am taking that advice loud and clear..no more wasting time.

Honeyspur.. can I just say even though I broke the challenge on day 25...and the monday just gone would have been day 30. Well technically speaking..I only initiated contact once in over a month..that is still an achievement isnt it..? I guess I am fishing for a compliment...lol.

Well tomorrow is day 9. woohoo

x

right ok...thanks for clearing that one up..hehe xx

Thank you volkslad ...I feel so low I just feel like I want to go to bed and sleep for 10 years....

Can someone tell me what meh? stands for..I see it a lot on forums and have no idea what it stands for..

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Ok well today is day 7 NC phase two for me..

This afternoon I cried and cried and cried...sigh oh when will this all end...

I feel so lonely. I have no family to turn too for support and have no true friends to comfort me..

I really could do with someone showing me some love.....any love..will do..

Feel so neglected..

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Well as you may all know I am currently in phase 2 nc with the recent ex 6 days NC going strong. I having the most horrific nightmares..mainly to do with my ex and also my mum abusing me when I was a child....some awful stuff and kind of makes me wake up a bit confused..

However, my first ex before my recent one has never been out of the picture completely really. We were together 5 years and it turned out to be an awful relationship. He became very violent and was ver verbally abusive. I also had an abortion in this relationship too. However, he broke up with me Jan 2007 as he slept with someone else..and she got pregnant..She has now had the baby and the baby is 4 months old. He is not with her...but since Jan 07. The longest he goes without contacting me is 7 days..before calling, emailing, texting e.t.c He knew about my previous relationship and he would still text e.t.c. He still says he still loves me, but I dont want him as the relationship we had was toxic. We were engaged, and I kind of think he may want to get back together at some point, but I cant now..especially now he has a lovechild and he doesnt really take any responsibility for the violence..He has come and seen me on occasions because this Ex was a very abusive controlling man and thrives when I am a damsell in distress. And since breaking up with my recent ex...he has been all over me like a rash...helping me out with money...food e.t.c Its all very nice...but I dont love him anymore. He is toxic and has hurt me a lot. I dont have a mother or father to turn too, which is probably why I have accepted his "help"...

So it has been about 10 days since I last heard from him and today on cue I get a text saying... I hope your ok puppy, im working hard and have a bad cold.x

I am thinking of NC'ing him too...I have abandonment issues which is why I am finding it hard to tell him where to go.. I havent replied to the message yet...

Oh no I am beginning to feel down again for some reason.....

Ok well day 6 NC for me . phase two.

Doing ok..Felt a little sad this afternoon but I dont miss him as such

Just still holding out faith that I will meet someone who will cherish me completely...

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oh no sam...maybe im being optimistic but do you think she deleted it by accident?

Does she have any reason to be angry with you..seems a bit strange?

lol honeyspur...

By the way well into day 5 NC phase 2...sigh..

Oh I feel crap. I have had a good weekend so far . Not really thought about him but I had a nightmare last night. And in it he was treating me awful, calling me names and all sorts..

Other than that I am feeling a lotr happier, and dont miss him at all..

Really want to just move on with my life..

Hey Bronte...

Dont return the call to his employer...

Why should he dump you, go into NC

But then you should be gracious enough to support him with referencing...

Let him get someone else to be his reference

NOT YOUR PROBLEM NOW.

Tough love hun

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Going to go and visit my nan not well so will post a reply to everyone later

Day 4 NC for me..if I hadnt broken my 25 days

Monday would of been D-day..but I am ok

Because I know this NC will be a breeze in the park..

What do you miss about your ex? Nothing...in fact I will let you all know if I think of something..

See you later. x

Groundbreaking post GetmeBack!!! Everyone needs to read this -

 

I am so thrilled for you - you have just jumped ahead in your healing!!!!!

Thanks honeyspur for that. .

I am hoping to god he doesnt contact me..lol..

Day 3 NC phase 2..

Something tells me I am going to breeze this one...

Sam do not email her.. I have just made a post in healing..worth the read..

He wrote last night, to tell me about his surgery.

I was expecting his message.

He wrote me even today.

But I was not in mood for exchanging messages with him.

He acts as his is something special, and something I cannot resist.

That makes me see that every thought I spend on him is waste of time.

It gives me energy to continue with my life without him, without regreting.

Tinnes I know the feeling....I am expecting my ex to text today about his interview for a course he wants to do.. Its nice to know I am useful for support..Take your time in replying. I have been contemplating whether to reply at all because even if I do . Its not going to make him think " hey , let me call her up and be back together again" He will be very displeased if I dont reply...but then again I have been displeased for nearly 5 months....sigh..

Thank you Lilbear..

I think it will be easier from now on too..

I am looking forward to my fresh start.

Thank you honey I was waiting for your reply..

To be honest, I feel a bit strange. The last few hours I have been just sitting here thinking..why am I wasting my time pining over a man who is clearly not on the same page as me.

I really do need to wake up and smell the coffee. He has a much inspiration as a fish out of water.

He just sent me a text saying ...he will let me know how his interview goes but he dont think he will find out for a couple of weeks the result. Nice to know I am still good enough for giving him support. NOT. sigh. ..

Oh well..I really need to get my butt in gear and carry on with my nursing degree. Carry on writing my book. Lose some damn weight as comfort eating has taken a new heights lately..

And oh yeah...my first counselling appointment is booked for tomorrow which will be interesting...

I am not going to announce my NC but I think i should ignore him when he texts me tomorrow..or whenever..im at the end of the road now with me and him. I have neglected myself so much since nov, loving someone and not getting anything back and I dont think my body can take it anymore. I am already on a shockingly strong does of Prozac..

Today I closed the chapter on me and him. Now I look forward to a fresh start. .

I really hope everyone learns from me and does not break NC, please please just think about yourself as much as it can be hard too and just let him/her go..just let go. Its the only way...

Hi hope springs.

The reason why he is getting nervous..because in my relationship I worked as an escort to practically pay for our relationship basically.

He sat his sorry a -s - s at home while I paid for 90 percent of everything..

He doesnt want the book to be published because he dont want his family to find out what a low life user he was as he never told anyone what I had to do to support us as he wouldnt get a job..

Real names will not be disclosed in the book...he was lazy, didnt work and puts the blame on our break up solely on me..

I am deeply hurt..which you can probably tell..