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Well done Jeepman

Hi everyone, hope you dont mind me joining this thread..

I want to go NC with someone, but not with a boyfriend..my MUM.

She has made me desperately miserable for years..and its time I walked away for good.

Oh right, thousands. maybe you wont bump into him...but you know thats likely right?

Hey, I am all for a girl pampering themselves, I spend a criminal amount on my nails..lol But as long as its for YOU and not for HIM.?

You should go to the graduation if you have shared friends, im just worried your going to go with expectations, and you will leave feeling hurt.

I dont want that for you.

GMBX

dont do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have just posted a message to you on your thread...and I really think you need to step back from this situation...

He is going to his friends graduation with his new gf, and you are going to turn up there, after having been to the gym, dermatologist e.t.c...What do you think is going to happen?

Do you think he will see you, and think " wow, she looks great, I want her back?"

Also, why would you be putting yourself in such an awkward situation where you might have to witness him all over his new gf...ouch! Why you are putting yourself through this pain?

GMB X

Well done everyone, keep strong x

did she really? Maybe there is a new career in the pipeline for me?

Day 6 for me and it's felt like a lifetime. Had a bad one today, thinking about her the whole day and when it gets to the evenings I always start on the thoughts of her and her new boyfriend cuddling up together to go to sleep after making love.

 

Sundays really are the worst days, the pain seems double somehow.

I used to have thoughts like this, you need to change your thoughts..and think about the next love in your life, and what its going to be like e.t.c, ...it used to work for me and I was able to get to sleep more peacefully..x

I would remove him from your list, and block him. Sounds harsh, but do you really want him to have front row seats to your life, yet he wont even pick up the phone to say "he loves you, and wants you in his life? "

Just a thought..

The urge to contact is gonna be far worse with valentines day approaching...am gonna be thinking of her all the time and will want her to think of me...a personal aim for me is to make it past valentines weekend. If I do that I'll feel Ive proved to myself I can do this...I hope.

You will do it, TLguy but please do not contact her even after Valentines day...if you set your hopes up for 'just' passing that day, you may have a real come down afterwards, and decided to contact her anyway...

Remember, if the person your in love with is able to spend a minute, a day, a week, a few weeks, without having you as their gf/bf, they DO NOT LOVE YOU.

Do not punish yourself, x

yes, getmeback, it did make me feel better.

considering i havent heard from him since january 26th.

a simple little response such as "thank you", did make my day.

i'm sorry if that's hard to understand. but it's a step up from being ignored.

but since i "broke" a rule..i'll start over.

 

honestly though, i'm starting to reconsider this challenge.

i have no intentions on continuing to contact him, but i just think that constantly counting each day is making it seem like the days go by slower.

anyone else feel that way?

 

 

Parlae, I completely understand. If you read through my very old posts, I would have been happy if my ex sent me a blank text..

 

Yet, what exes offer is scraps, and they only feed them to you if you ask for them...

ok, today is the ex's birthday

i broke down and texted him only to say happy birthday. he replied saying "thank you", i told him you're welcome... and that was it.

nothing serious. but it still made me feel great, considering i was expecting no response.

 

but does this mean i have to start back at day 1??? ugh.... ](*,)

 

 

wow, lauramed.

how did that go? was it a friendly conversation?

Yes Parlae, you have to start all over again now..did it really make you feel better, just " thank you"? x

I didnt know you had a post, ill read it.x

Brazil girl, I hate to be the bearer of bad news..

But in order to heal faster...you need to stop using terminology like " What we have is so special ". I know what im saying might come accross harsh and hurtful..

But if he has said " Im not in love with you, like that " or anyway he has said it and said " OK, NC is the way to go " he clearly doesnt feel the same way...

He has sat there and told you to your face, he is quite happy to not speak to you any more...

It may be hard to stomach, but thats the reality of your situation, dont buy into any rubbish he said. If he is content with not seeing you..then there is no " special " thing between you..

GMB X

Starting day 3, yay!

 

Keep it up everyone- I'm feeling a lot more together this week after what could be describe as the worst month of my life (January). I does get better! I definitely still have an overwhelming urge to call him sometimes, and the crying- but I am able to actually get some work done and feel much more emotionally stable.

 

-K

Well done, on day 3 NC...be kind to yourself and prepare yourself for the down days...but if you keep coming on here and talking it out it will help you no end..

JUST DONT PICK UP THAT PHONE!

GMB X

Still in DAY 2, hard day. My bosses are out of the office so I feel kind of "left" here with no real obligations and can't really get the energy to do my tasks.

 

Keep thinking of how my ex WANTS me out of his life right now. He told me last week that I was his best friend and that the loved me so deeply (just not in the gf way at the moment)... and now he seems to agree NC is the only way to go... I wonder if he misses me at all! =[ He's probably relieved I'm gone.

I know what he has said you to , probably really hurts but he is telling you what you need to hear..

The worst you could do at the moment is pick up the phone and call him, you will not feel better about it..

The fact they say " OK " to NC, is another sign. My ex did that to me, I really knew then I had to stay away for my own sanity...

Keep strong

GMB X

Willey your missing the point,

You have all the power when you dont contact her...she cant hurt you then! Its not a game, but she will be wondering " what the hell your doing?" especially if she expects you to contact her. I believe in " disappear like a ship in the night" works a treat!

You are now in control...of your feelings and what you now do..

By you contacting her, you hand over the power and control to her..

I know what I would rather do....

GMB X

Day 8....

 

Been having really strong urges to contact her today but i'm gonna be strong and ignore them! Tomorrow (her birthday) is the main cause of this I think!

 

I just wish it was later on in the year. Also i'm worried if she will send me a text thanking me for the card I sent her, and how i'll react when I see her name come up on my phone

 

I should have started this No Contact after we split up, but I left it about a month before I did! Oh well!

 

Its just going so slow.... whilst im happy i've made it to a week now, it has gone incredibly slow!

 

I bet she doesn't even miss me one bit, thats what hurts the most.

Hi Wiley, dont contact her! It really isnt worth it hun. It wont make you feel better either...there will be a time when you will wake up and she wont be the first thing you think of, even thought it may not seem like it now..

Hi All,

I just wanted to add some of the articles I wrote a while back that may help keep you all strong..

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Hi Everyone,

I just want to say that I went through this NC challenge over a year ago, and like all of you I was in so much pain.

I have tried to stay away from this forum recently because I have had problems in my current relationship e.t.c

If I could offer any advice to you all, talk it out as much as you can, to anyone caring who will listen, you need too! Bottling it up will do nothing, but manifest and still bug you a year, 2 years later e.t.c...

If you look through some of my older posts you will see what a battle I went through, and how much like "nothing" I felt. I wanted to disappear, and suicidal thoughts plagued me. It was SUCH a low point, I wish I could of given me the advice I know now...

Too Fiffy - I am pointing you out because I can identify with your story so much. Most people I meet, say I am an attractive girl. Yet, My first ex made me feel so ugly. He told the woman he cheated on me with, that I was no longer a size 6 and that I smell!. Sound familiar? These type of men will say anything just to bring you down. I have looked at your pictures, and you are sooooooo beautiful. I have added you on my msn by the way..

I will be here offering support and advice to all of you, if you need it..

Love GMB, and my thoughts are with you.xxx

Really sorry about the colour on the last one, it wouldnt let me change it. it came out wrong. what I said;

Newdilemma-

Or you could always find a bf, that is happy with just having intimacy with just you?

GetMeBack

Newdilemma-

Or you could always find a bf, that is happy with just having intimacy with just you?

GetMeBack

The worst thing that I still want. Because I'm going crazy feeling lonely more than 1 month. If I find someone lovely, I'll try to leave him, but now I have a deep heartache. I'm also afraid what if we'll be a couple and he will tell me one day after some years: "Lets try a group sex with lot of girlfriends or I'll leave you". I will be old one day...

 

sorry I really didnt understand this...?

You dont need to weigh yourself, you know your a slim girl.

Dont rely on him to validate you.

Surely you dont want this man back?

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Surely this is not for real?

47KG and he is calling you thicker?

Taking animals to the blacony?

The man sounds like a total and utter a** hole, please send him on his bike.[/color][/size][/font]