I have to get feedback on my problem because it's really affecting my life. I have worked with a woman for over 1 1/2 years. Ever since we met each other sparks flew and I fell head over heels for her. She knew I was attracted to her but I have a girlfriend and she is also married. She left the company and we have had some awkward conversations/texts about wanting to be together but feeling guilty. We keep making time to go out but then I back off last minute because of my apprehension. The last text she told me she was in love with me and wanted to be with me. I have never answered her back and I know I have hurt her. She keeps texting me what happened to me but I shut her out. The problem is I can't stop thinking about her. I have a very active social life and meet lots of people all the time but I see her face in every girl I talk to. It especially hurts when I'm alone at home, I think about being with her and it hurts. Could I really be in love? Don't know if I should go for it or not. We'd both be disrespecting our SO's.
