Anelfinphile

I have to agree with shy2cool. He hit the nail on the head. I do admit I have a myspace account though. I'll even amplify a little. I don't like when I see a "New Friend's request" either, because 90% of the time, it's just random "user" spam whose profile ends up not existing by the end of the week. Nice. I don't have very many friends in my list, so I don't use it for accumulating either. The people I have there are old High School contacts, local friends or co-workers. I understand the bigger your network is, the chances are greater for meeting someone, but I doubt that applies online over the Internet. I think networking works better in personal everyday life. Ah well. I do agree with the confidence factor to an extent. I can be humorous and witty as well; so, I've been told.

I know what you mean. They're usually with guys or with their kids. No, I'm not just saying that for an excuse unfortunately. Thank you for the comments in this thread. As far as confidence, I know a lot of people where confidence CAN be a weakness, to the point where it blinds the individual of the truth around them. I guess there has to be some sort of equilibrium where being confident doesn't mean being oblivious to the truth about certain matters. I know guys who are confident as can be and then know their mates who cheat on them. So, I suppose what you are all aiming at in this topic is an equilibrium with confidence. Does that make any sense?

I don't plan on trying online dating. eHarmony was enough. I got back a reply from their database saying I was an "incompatible match for their databases." Imagine that. I have a myspace account, but that's it really. I just don't understand why I have few friends and I'm usually "overlooked" in groups. I'm not that bad of person to get to know, and I consider myself somewhat good-looking, charming or interesting (and I'm only saying this with modesty). I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not to fit into a group of people.

I rarely go out. If I do, it's on my own. I'll go to Borders myself; have something to drink in the coffee shop. I don't really do the bar/club scene; only sometimes. I don't usually participate in social events anyhow. I have tried before. They don't work out and I'm never invited out again. Most of the time, it's because I'm not normally invited in the group and I don't force myself to be invited somewhere, but on other occasions, I guess it's a fear. Maybe, I'm not invited because I usually say No or make up a lame excuse. But, the fear is still there. I know that's not a good start. I don't really consider myself fun or "up with crowds." I'm not mainstream, maybe old fashioned. Overall, I've been told I'm unique. I don't have the same interests as the mainstream. I guess that would be considered boring.

Hi, I'm new. I was actually doing a Yahoo! Search on "finding one's soulmate," and I was introduced to this site through the search. I think if I were to catergorize myself, I am TOO shy. I'm not saying that for attention or as a cop-out. I really am too shy. I'm 33 and I find it difficult to open up to the opposite sex, so difficult that it makes me worse off from the beginning. It eats at me that I can't open up, and I don't know what to do. I want to find Ms. Right, but I just don't know anymore. It's eating me alive. I know that someone will reply and say, you can't look for her. I've done this, and I really don't date to begin with. I'm that shy. And, I'm well aware of my sexual orientation. There is no doubt about that. I'm not confused with this at all. This isn't one of those pity party things. I really feel helpless and as I said, I'm 33 and still haven't found Ms. Right.