He might be flirting... or he might be cruising. You might consider hiring a PI to find out the difference.
I don't want to make this a plug for my agency, but since I've seen the often dismal results of traditional PI work, I'd like to offer you this advice should you decide to go that route:
1) Most communications these days take place via email and web postings. Most PIs are from a law enforcement background (mostly retired); and since law enforcement agencies are just beginning to enter the cyber crime arena, many PIs do not possess the technical skills to track messages sent via the Internet.
2) Trailing your husband or boyfriend is extraordinarily difficult, and surveillance is expensive and usually non-productive. While trailing and surveillance are appropriate tactics to determine someone's *usual and ordinary* activities, both methods frequently fail when trying to observe a guy who is crusing for women or having a surreptitious liaison with his mistress.
There are a few PI firms (like my own) that utilize both live and online decoys to try to engage cheating spouses/boyfriends who are "crusing." These agencies can also track and report to you your spouse's electronic communications, which would be an appropriate service in your particular situation.
Please feel free to contact me if I can assist you, or if you would like a referral to an agency that can offer these services.
Patrick D. Bryant, CISSP, IAM
Certified Information Systems Security Professional (CISSP)
National Security Agency certified INFOSEC Assessment Methodology (IAM) practitioner
State of California Licensed Investigator # PI23268
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