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Perhaps you should research about what it is your doing so these questions dont come up. The more educated you are the better off you will be.

any good sites to recommend in this kinda situation? most of the sites i googled showed couples who wants child.

oh the results just came. it came out negative. this is my 1st results tho..and i think im going to get another pregnancy test to be 100% sure.

Big thanks to everyone who kindly replied my posts.

It's unlikely for you to get pregnant that way. Impossible to get pregnant through oral sex, that's for sure.

the act of oral itself wont get women pregnant..thats sure. but the thing is, i kissed him after i gave him a bj (first). but he didnt cum when i gave him the first bj. there might be traces of semen on my mouth i think? and later he "ate" me down there . so any chances?

I highly doubt you're pregnant. Don't worry about it. Just be more careful next time.

thanks for the replies!! yeah i will be more careful. its freaking the * * * * out of me. ill be starting uni soon and i dont want any problems.

There is a high chance you are NOT pregnant. Sperm dont just hide out in the mouth.

oh yeah it makes sense! but im still not very convinced.. =S

oh yeah? first thing in the morning! thats now here! im doing it now. just another thing, do people actually get pregnant that way? coz he didnt cum in me before i kissed him. does pre cum counts as the final cum?

ok, so about less than 2 weeks ago me and my bf had orals. after giving him a bj (he didnt cum yet), i kissed him, and later he went down on me (cunnilingus). does that mean that the chances of me being pregnant is more? he also claims that his sperm isnt as healthy like the normal ones..and that it doesnt lives that long. (prob coz of his heavy smoking habit) im abit worried that i might be pregnant. and when's the best time/day to use a pregnancy test?

Even though you label yourself "just friends", isn't that feeling of caring about him so much still there?

 

I mean, I'm not trying to say that you are being stupid with what you are choosing. You have every right to do that. And it's not a totally bad decision, I can see what you mean.

 

But wouldn't you rather him go away knowing that you mean something more to each other than "just friends"? And that feeling of wanting him around will still be there. Your feelings are that you obviously like him. That's not going to change no matter what you call yourselves.. and no matter what side of the world he is on.

 

Sorry about that.. if you are happy with where things are, and being considered just a friend, then that's totally ok. But why do the things that you should only do when in a relationship?

i am so glad that you understand my side. i thought that if we were to be together..in that 3 months or so wouldnt mean that much..(but nevertheless something..i know) as in..memorable and all. im kinda a hopeless romantic..i wont have him with me..spending time..those things. i thought when a relationship is beginning to grow, we should spend time together..not away..

we do things that we shud do in a relationship..well, i dont know why i did it. but it jz feels..right? yes i know it sounds stupid. ive never been kissed until recently..he even had to guide me and i thought its ok to french kiss a friend..for starters i mean.

i do want him to know that we're more than just friends when he's away..but it hurts sometimes knowing that i wont have him until he comes back. my other side kept on telling me that if we're friends, then fine. no reason to be upset about.

dont get me wrong..i see your point..and gosh why didnt i think about that uhm.. just in case i need help, how would i knw how to initiate to him that "yes... we'll be official from no onwards" sounds dumb some might say..but i dunno. i do not like the idea that gals do it.. (its just me)

You aren't ready for sex yet, which is totally fine... and something he needs to respect.

 

I don't like the fact that he keeps asking you why don't you have sex, he should be understanding of the fact that you aren't ready for this level of intimacy yet. This says that you haven't talked about it as a couple yet, which is something I think you need to sort out reasonably soon.

 

PR

i know i am not..and yeah i agree that thats something he needs to respect.. until i am ready.

uhm..i think i used the wrong vocab there. i mean he did ask me afew times..as in..a handful? uhmm y'know? but i appericiate that =) yeah we havent exactly talked abt it as a couple yet.. partly because we arent one YET.. but as for the other part, ill sort it out next week when i see him.

If he loves and respect you he will wait until you are ready

gotcha..=)

If he respects you he will wait. And by him waiting for you, it shows that you are something special worth waiting for. I'm making my bf wait, as tough as it is. We have long distance relationship too and so he'll frequently drive a few hours out to see me, and this way I know its to see me and spend time with me not to get sex. It makes me feel good. I won't make him wait till marriage or nothing, I mean I've done this stuff before, but I wouldn't have realized how much I meant to him if I didn't make him wait. So I think its a good idea.

just like mine. i cant drive yet and we live more than an hours drive. it suks coz he has to do all the driving..and its as if im making him wait too. he'll come over and take me to his place..we spend our time together..and after that he sends me home. sometimes he reaches home at 3am i hate that. its as if im being very dependent on him when i want to meet him. but if he took all the trouble and drove all the way just to have sex with me, ill know..just like what you sed. and yeah, he genuinely wants to spend more time. nopes, i wont make him wait until marriage..but when i feel the time is right ive never done it bfore.

How long do you want to wait to be boyfriend and girlfriend? I mean, you are doing everything that people who are in love, and in a relationship should be doing..

well..i thought that since we'll have a hiatus..(3 months or so) i want to try it again after he comes back. its awful i know. but it will hurt even more knowing tat i wont have him when i needed him coz we're just starting to bud..and then hes not ther? so im just a friend now..and i guess itll convince myself that..its ok (yes, i hate it when i think like that) if hes not here when i need him and all.. i dont know how to explain..

Wait.. is he a boyfriend, or just a guy that you are seeing?

uhmm..oh god. weve been seeing each other for quite a bit.. but i didnt want to be together just yet (he did ask several times) coz he'll be leaving for europe soon for 3 !@#$$ months!

You aren't ready for sex yet, which is totally fine... and something he needs to respect.

 

I don't like the fact that he keeps asking you why don't you have sex, he should be understanding of the fact that you aren't ready for this level of intimacy yet. This says that you haven't talked about it as a couple yet, which is something I think you need to sort out reasonably soon.

 

PR

dont worry i will =)

geez my bad, i just realised that the thread's topic is wrong. its WILL he wait. not WILL he'll wait.

thanks for the replies guys. i really appericiate it. it draws up to the waiting bit. and until both parties agrees on doing it.

I agree with PRSOV. You should never let a guy use the excuse that he will explode or something. Or let him bribe you by saying he will leave you unless you have sex with him.

 

He probably does want more with you. He's obviously attracted to you. But if he really loves you, he will want to wait. Waiting will be worth it to him.

 

Have you talked to him about this? You seem to be worried about this stuff, you have been asking for advice on it quite a bit.

hes not bribing me at all. he sometimes asks me why wait? i just tell him "not yet". when he's dry humping me..i could tell he wants more.. i had to say no coz i wasnt ready yet. (i know its tough for a guy) but at times i really want to experience it you know..but again, i was scared. i guess its just me, or i need to talk more about this issue with him. sometimes he teases me and says that he'll wont give up yet..until i give in.. i have absolutely almost no knowledge on the act itself and all. he knows that coz we've talked abt it as ive told him that im a virgin.

i hope waiting will be worth it. yeah im worried about this stuffs coz ive never been in this kinda relationship..we're not yet together but you know..the feeling is different from my previous crushes.. and furthermore the society im living in.. its kinda..tabboo? and we dont just discuss this issue openly.

i guess this is more of a sex question compared to relationship. or both. thing is, is sex important in the any stage of a relationship, in particular, the initial stage? ive been seeing this guy i mentioned..while we're kissing, petting was also involved and i can tell that he wants more than that. (we were fully clothed) i admit that i enjoyed what he did..and it doesnt bother me at all but it gets me thinking (as usual) i mean i plan to be celibate until..i dont know..i cant control? so is what they say true? that if he wants you, he can wait? or?

oh gosh. this is even tougher than my math exam! and i dont like math!! i guess i really have to talk to him about this. but how would i start it without sounding as if i am jealous/insecure? (supposedly if i am or not)

Some guys can be pretty crazy nostaligic...I still have my 1989 Bobby Meachum Yankee baseball card in my t-shirt drawer...and since your not his gf hwats it to you?

then he must be quite nostalgic. yeah i know im not his gf..but it gets me thinking wouldnt you think too if you were in my position..? but i guess the bottom line is that i have no say .. just yet.

yeah. im taking things slowly cos i dont wanna make the same mistake again. i know i do not have much say on the picture thingy coz we're not even starting yet but it gets me thinking. you know what i mean? i dont know. maybe i just think too much. but thanks! i guess hes using that for healing purposes. yup, thats a plus++ cos he has my pictures there too =)

how long have you guys been seeing each other?

 

It sounds like he is not over his ex. I dont keep pics of my ex around and i certainly would not want a new person to see pics of him. So it makes me wonder why he has this need to have pictures of her around

 

The fact that he's leaving for 3 months is kind of a big deal, esp since you guys are not official yet. Maybe you will meet up again when he gets back, maybe not. Things can change quite a bit in 3 months

 

SOrry to sound negative, but that's just how i see it. I think you are selling yourself short by putting up with someone who is still quite attached to their ex and is leaving the country for 3 months. If it's mean to be, it'll be...but it doesnt seem that way to me.

firstly i apologise for the delay. weve been seeing each another for about 3 months now. we live more than 1 hour of drive. (and i cant drive..=P) im not sure why he has the need to have his ex picture around. im also not ure if hes still quite attached to his ex..but when he says that its for memories, at first i thought.. ok sure and i guess its mature and that hes cool caz he wasnt feeling guilty that he kept her picture there. but when the second thought hit me, i mean you keep ex's pictures when youre seeing someone. now, how does the other person feel? i am aware that i shudnt feel angry at him for doin that cas im not in any position to do so.. great. about meeting him after he comes back..we'll see if things/feelings are the same.. oh well.

i am seeing this guy..and im not exactly in an official relationship with him yet..but i feel that we're going in that direction soon. the other day when i borrowed his cellphone to check out some pictures he took of me, i saw a few pics (about 4 or more) of his ex gf of about 4 years. sure theyve broken up. but why is he still keeping pictures of her in his cellphone? and he also have one framed up inside his room. i asked him about it and he says it doesnt mean anything and that its just for memories. i thought back about what he said and think..is that ok? i mean..we're sorta seeing each other now..and he still keeps it?

now..do guys/girls keep pics of their ex in somewher personal like cellphone? dont get me wrong. its not jealousy or anything.. well maybe it is.. but.. argghh.. well.. if someone youre seeing still keeps a afew ex's picture.. how would you react/feel and tell him about it without letting him know youre jealous?

he did want me to be his gf, but i just said not yet..caz he'll be leaving for Europe for 3 months for visiting/personal issues! i was hoping that we'd continue after he comes back this Sept. am i doing the right thing? considering the fact that our so called relationship were just starting to bud..and this hiatus suddenly comes up. i just dont want to lose him.

dont worry, it isnt a serious age gap. its not like he's old enough to be your dad or something (well, even if he is, it shouldnt be a problem coz you like him?) but yours is 7 years difference. the guy i like is 6 years older than me. im 19, he will be 25 this december. we're not officially together, but yeah, we're getting along. not much people knows his age and that doesnt bother me - but we did talk about it. (i guess most of them assume he's around my age coz he dont look like a 24 year old) his friends are around that age cohort and we get along fine too. bottom line: do not let age gap bother you..coz..well coz you like him. age is just a number. BUT if the age gap concerns both of you, you should both seriously discuss how it would affect you and other possibilities. i have heard stories of couples with an age gap. the guy treats the girl like a child, coz he assume that people her age shud be bla bla.. (not trying to scare you. just try to picture it)

well, a close friend of mine have this similar problem too. she says that she was still bleeding after a few days she lost her virginity.. we went to the doctor and instead of being checked up, the doctor says its normal. well, it went away after a few days.. 3 days? so yeah. being rough during the activity will make it bleed longer i suppose? if still in doubts, best go to a doctor and demand a check up!