Florida Girl

I don't want to live with someone until my boys are grown. I guess though if I met the right person for all of us I would. I think I am happy with 1/2 relationship when we see each other, but when he backs off every three months or so I am left wondering whats going on. He is not good with communicating his feelings, he just backs off. So I guess maybe I'm not ok with it.

whatchamacallit, I agree, if I met a man with younger kids I would really have to think before I got involved. I know he loves me because he is still around after 4 years, he hasn't been with anyone for more than 3 months. I know that my kids are the only thing that is keeping us apart, I know he loves me and I understand that he backs away and tries to find someone else that he can be with but nobody makes him happy but me.

he has told me that he would want to spend the rest of his life with me but he doesn't want to start another family because he will be retiring and he has difficulty with my son

Hi whatchamacallit. He doesn't come around my kids much. I have on child who is ADHD and he is the type of person that can't handle difficult kids (or adults). I do believe in my heart that one day we will be together, but I am not going to sit home and wait on that. I am 40. I do date other people but I have not found anyone that makes me feel the way he does. I still get butterflies when I see him.

he has already shown he wants distance because he hasn't called. So do I just not call him or should I call and ask whats up? I think if I call he will be defensive. He hates confrontation, obviously! So what good will it do if I call?

do you think I should just back off or should I call him and make it final? I don't want to burn any bridges. I have no family here and he does help me out when I need something.

Some of my friend and family tell me to stay friends with him because he is a good friend, he is always there when I need him. He has never treated me bad. It's that he doesn't treat me enough, if you know what I mean. I just don't know if I can do that. When we are together it's like fireworks, he acts like he is so happy to be with me, but after we are together he doesn't call much and then he will call me to go out and I do. Sometimes we have sex but the past few times I told him I wasn't comfortable with having sex with someone that doesn't call me so he started calling me more and the last time I went out with him I spent the night and we had sex and now I haven't heard from him except to wish me a happy Easter. I don't know if he backs off so not to lead me on or what. What do you think?

I love the guy but he can't committ. I think the guy is crazy about me but has issues with commitment. We both date other people but we keep coming back to each other. He told me last month that if he were to want to spend the rest of his life with someone it would be me. I know we can't be together because I have 2 kids and he doesn't want to start another family cuz his kids are grown and he will be retireing in 2 years (he is 45). I thought I would be ok with just dating him because we have a wonderful time when we are together, but I'm starting to think that I cant handle that because I love him so much.

I have been dating a man on and off for 4 years. We have both dated other people but we always get back together within a few weeks or so. We have been seeing each other this time since January and the last time I saw him was 2 weeks ago. We had a great time. I called him last Thursday and left a message that if he didn't have plans I would like to see him. He never returned my call. I got an e-mail from him 2 days later wishing me a Happy Easter and to tell me he already had plans Thursday when I called and haven't heard from him since. He has never not contacted me for this long. I suspect he is dating someone else. Should I call or should I wait to hear from him? Do I ask him if he is seeing someone else?