mmd

I usually do gorup things with her. But I dont want to move too fast, her friend told me that she is unsure whether to hold back or go for it because its too soon after my breakup with my ex and that she is scared that I might turn around and go for my ex.

I've been friends with a girl for a while now, she been there for me a couple of times with my breakups.

Im starting to get attracted to her and Im interested in being with her...

We usually tease each other and we end up laughing together quite a lot but we are just friends at the moment. I dont want to tell her I like her just yet because I just recently got out of a relationship and she was there for me.

I just want to know how to be more than a friend to hopefully attract her.

What can I do differently?

Thanks

mmd

Thanks hjc

Thanks Surrended Those kind of replies give me the strength to keep going with NC.

Hurting like a b****

mmd

Thanks I love this website its just full of good people...

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Im not trying any games, I'm acting myself, just trying to put on a brave face and get through each day without saying something that I regret that could mess up my chances.

How do I answer this question? Im currently doing NC with my ex (mutual breakup) but we sit next to each other in class.

I act confident and happy around her when I am forced to see her and talk to her in class. We end up with basic chat and maybe have a laugh together about something.

She usually asks me questions about how I am and what have I been up to? I dont want to tell her, I want her to be constantly wondering what Im up to. Should I be vague with my answers?

I want her back

My situation:

Update:

It is now the weekend I went out friday night, my ex broke NC on thursday night and came to me with her problems and she was an emotional wreck telling me she had pressures and self issues, she was crying a lot.

I talked to her on the phone I made her feel better, she wasn't upset about "us" she said, it was other things. I was there for her and I comforted her but the next day I took her to the school counseller so I didnt have to deal with her problems anymore. She said I was the only one she could speak to, and I have now resumed NC again.

I told her Its much easier for me for us to keep our friendship in school (classes, where we have to talk to each other because we sit next to each other) and that she shouldnt contact me, but I am here for her if she has problems that she cant go to anyone else for.

Did I handle this ok? Should I have said anything else? If I said something wrong how can I change it?

Thanks in advance

My heart still hurts...

But holding on strong.

mmd

Here is a little update on today's events...

I went to school feeling ok, I seem to be intimidated by my ex's presense Im always looking around to see if shes there or not. She seems pretty happy, not sure if thats how she really is feeling... A mutual friend told me that she was having a bad day which made me feel better But I think its to do with her friends having problems and not about me

She also didnt hug or speak to the guy (who she has history with) after school today which made me feel even greater.

The only time I talked to my ex was in class today, I could feel the spark and chemistry, she seemed to be interested in me. It made me feel good that she gave me some attention. Not sure if she felt the same way...

Im interested in 2 girls atm, one of them is a friend that i've always had this thing for as well as a girl in another school. Ill see how it goes this weekend.

Still missing my... wanting her back...

Any advice is good advice

Thanks

mmd

Alright thanks

I hope for the best...

I dont have much of a clue of how shes feeling now its been a while. She is still confused I think...

So Im only going to talk to her in class when I am forced to... This is when she will see me as the person she fell in love with. Ill be good humoured and I'll give her a compliment every now and then. Other than this there will be no contact at all.

So all Im waiting on is time.

She has told me that she misses "us" and she loves me still. She just is still unsure of how to proceed.

Hopefully this NC period will have some influence on how she feels about me. I know you are being honest and I do understand it. The only reason she wasnt 100% commited was because she had other priorites such as school and friends.

Im just giving her space and time.

Anyone else?

Any reply or anyones opinion to my questions... would help a great deal.

Thanks

nadine_3110 I understand that completely I do have my confidence but the only thing in the way is a guy that shes starting to get close to... Which she has history with.

It makes me think shes not getting what she wants from me so shes looking for it in another guy.

Thanks

A little jealousy can't hurt can it? But then she could do the same to me which is quite damaging since I dont take it that well.

Thanks

"You probably can't get her back unless she decides on her own that she wants to come back, unfortunately." Yes I do realise this... Im just being the person that she fell in love with when I am forced to be with her (class).

"Read some of Super Dave's posts, lots of good advice there." Yes I have read them I have also read Majord23's as well. I have a hardcopy of most of his threads I read them every day and they give me the strength and inspiration to keep going.

I know how to be attractive around my ex, I am well humoured around her and I compliment her everynow and then in class. She reacts well to it, not sure if I want to keep complimenting her though... Should I?

Sounds good to me... Im going out with some friends this weekend, Ive been thinking, if I kissed another girl do you think it would push my ex away? I usually compliment her when I see her in class... Do you think this would help at all?

Thanks

not sure on that but yes if you do starve yourself long enough or dont eat enough for a long time yes you will get it... I think...

Ive posted multiple times, but heres my current situation, and I'll try to keep it short.

Long term girlfriend of 1 year 8 months, we had a mutual break up because:

- She wanted to be more involved with her friends

- She was not 100% into our relationship, but I was so in the end I was the one getting hurt.

So since I brought these problems up before, she didnt change much. So I brought up breaking up since nothing was changing. She agreed as well, she wasnt feeling the same about the relationship anymore.

I took control and initiated No Contact. Being friends was not an option (which she wanted) but I said no.

Which brings me to the question, whats better? Talking with your ex and being flirty with them or just not talking at all... In order to get them back.

Im missing her incredibly. I want to move on as well as get her back.

One more issue... She is starting to get close to a guy which she had a fling with. Can I do anything about this?

Its making me feel really bad and jealous.

Also we go to the same school and we are in 3 of the same classes and we sit next to each other. How do I act around her?

Thanks in advance.

mmd

well if you are 100% you have no regrets or uncertainties I mean you can love someone but maybe theres something in the way...

oh man patience SUCKS

we talked again she ended up seeming annoyed since i wouldnt answer some of her questions and told her that it wouldnt do any of us any favours.

hey thanks everyone she missed called me and wanted to talk about "us" we basically went through everything again and how it was going to be, NC and she started to get annoyed with me when I wouldnt answer to her question of what ive been up to this weekend.

So tmmrw starts school. we'll see what happens... im hurting pretty bad now its kicked into a little bit. She says she misses me and that she isnt 100% yet and she asked how will she know whether ill be ready to take her back when shes ready? I said well you dont you just have to take that chance or not.

did i handle this right?

yeah we left on a good note, she just needed to sort out what she wanted and we both decided a breakup was for the best. But i took control and initiated NC, she has been wanting to talk with me not sure what to do though... I have a thread on it. well multiple lol

Ive read all majord23's threads and SuperDave71's threads. All very good and useful I read my Hardcopy of those No Contacts guides whenever I feel like contacting my ex. Im currently on a break up with my ex and it was mutual, most of your threads talk about a dumper and a dumpee.

What about mutual breakups, can you still apply the same things like No contact to reconcile?

Im aware of it backfiring, I dont have my hopes up too much. How do I reply to any texts she sends me examples in my previous posts...

Thanks man... It helps

She has said that she is sad and upset and she is scared.

That gave me hope about her thinking twice about what she really wanted, this helped me continue NC well LC now sorta.

I just want to hold her again and have her loving me