Is my Husband Gay

Thank you all for your replies! In response to some of the questions, the prostitute was a she-male. He did not cheat on me as this happened before we met. He says he has never been unfaithful to me. Our sex life is great. He has always been an incredibly attentive lover and we both are very open to experimentation, however I never expected this and am all the more shocked. He is, however, very fascinated with anal sex and that's something that I haven't been able to give him (just find it hurts too much). I have indulged other fetishes and he has certainly indulged my fantasies. I thought that this might be a better form of therapy for myself because I would be talking to people that may be actually living/experiencing or can relate to some of these issues more so than a therapist. He won't go to therapy himself as he insists he is not attracted to men, will give up the porn surfing and only wants to be true to our marraige. I would obviously be very hurt if I found out that he was gay/bisexual. I think the saddest thing for me would be the fact that we were living a lie more so than what his sexual orientation would be. Life should not be wasted being something that you are not. I would be happy to indulge him (ahem) but who is he thinking of? Me or a man?

I recently discovered that my husband has been surfing she-male porn internet sites for the last six years obsessively. He calls the she-male hotlines and masturbates and he recently told me that he had met with a prostitute before we were married but could not follow through with anything. I understand completely that transgendered males are actually females and have no problem whatsoever with that other then feeling a great deal of sympathy for their plight. However I never imagined my husband would be so into this. I am trying desperately to understand it. He says it is because it is just so different and deviant (not meant in a durogatory way but in the departure from normal way). I however do not have a penis and never will so I can't understand the fascination unless he is gay. Or he himself wants to be a woman. Can someone who is experienced with these types of issues please give me some advice so I can proceed in an educated, non-judgemental way. I do love my husband and would like to support whatever issues he may be dealing with but I need to know first if he is in denial about something or are these normal fantasies that most men don't admit to.