Ross_K

A therapist doesn't change the structure of your brain, they give you coping strategies and tasks. After therapy you wont think differently, you'll just have more methods of fighting problems.

By going out into situations and being able to cope in them (which meds and therapy helps greatly) will eventually change the structure of your brain so you can deal with them without meds and therapy. Some people who have SA due to a natural chemical imbalance in their brain will always have to stay on meds I think.

Where's tyler, doyathink and electra anyway?

Even if my condition brought somebody down though it doesn't make any difference, I've never chosen to be like this. I have a mental illness.

Ross,

 

That was a very mature and adult thing you did.

Thank you.

What are you doing to stop that from happening? A therapist doesn't have all the magic answers.

Stop what from happening, taking meds for the rest of my life?

Well obviously what I need to do to stop that from happening is to see a therapist, and hopefully the combination of getting out there more, therapy and meds will change my brains structure, so then I'll still be okay when I stop taking meds.

Increase you meds? You don't want to be a drooling monkey come on..

They don't turn you into a drooling monkey.

You said in a post that you were taking baby steps! WHAT steps have you taken? ( I'm waiting for my meds to kick in) ( I'm waiting for my Doc. to see me)

Getting out there more, taking meds, making an appointment with a therapist, seriously considering joing college and/or getting a job (something I never could have done before), planning on asking the doctor to start taking these meds at a higher dose when I next see her. Reading some leaflets from the college on what corses there are when my sister brings them over.

if we all just waited for something to drop in our lap, THIS world would not function, would it?

Why wouldn't it? There's some things you have to wait for.

You have made 21 posts of desperations and in one month, you have had more advise than any single poster out there has received. Yet, you are still setting at square one! ( Don't say I'm trolling, I've seen you do that before and I am making an observation)

No, the advice as actually helped me.

What would happen if your computer crashed today?

Watch TV instead.

They aren't designed for that, they're designed to be taken over six months to one and a half years.

I've heard they can be taken for the rest of your life.

Well anyway, hopefully I wont need to take them for the rest of my life.

Are you for real? I can't believe that a 30 year old man would be acting like such a boy.

Don't grow up or you Can't grow up

Don't get a job or you Can't get a job

Don't get a car or you Can't get a car

Don't find a nice gal or you Can't find a nice gal

You seem pretty proficient with the word DONT and CANT.

*Yawn* Whatever. Go troll someone else

Oh, and I've marked you.

Great when is it?

 

as for car related jobs you could lok for jobs as or at:

 

- car wash

- car detailing shop

- auto body shop

- mechanics shop

- car salesman

- lot boy for car dealership

- car parts store

- paint shop for cars

- car stereo shop

and many more.

The only ones that appeal to me are the auto body shop, mechanics shop and paint shop, but usually those sort of places are filled with bullies.

But medication can only give you the strength to make changes, you cant stay on anti-depressants for the rest of your life.

Why can't I?

You seem content living like that. What are you doing to change?

I'm taking meds and I'm waiting to get a letter for an appointment with a therapist. And also I'm going to see if I can feel any better through the meds. When I see the doctor next I'll ask if I can take what I'm taking at a higher dose.

Like I said, baby steps. People seem to forget that I've got a mental illness.

Well if you know when the worlds gonna end give me heads up will ya!

 

Ok so you like cars as a general interest? Ya/ no?

Yeah I do.

I was thinking maybe I could do something in space and exploration because it sounds safe though.

You say you are taking baby steps!

 

What are the steps you have taken thus far? (from the very first post now to this one)

 

Anything past a thought?

Nothing, what can I do?

Ah but thats the beauty of life Ross, you never do know when will truly all end. Again though this what you say everytime a concrete answer is asked of you. "I see how XYZ is first".

Hmmm, I don't think that's true.

I mean you must have a clue of things you like. Things you would like to do. So what are they?

A car mechanic, a race driver, I dunno.

I honestly don't know what I want to do yet. But you're right about concentrating on one thing at a time, some people on here are wanting me to put the cart before the horse and get pissed off because I can't do.

Been here all along. Now do you have your resume done? Do you know what kinda jobs you woud lie to do?

I ain't got a clue.

Maybe I'll wait and see if things improve more with the meds first, it's not like the world is going to explode next week or anything.

Great get job then you can get it over with.

That's what I'm working on pal, where've you been?

This is hopeless! Are you just not getting it? Meaning is any of what we are saying soaking in?

And are you not getting it, meaning is anything I am saying soaking in?

Ross I read something you wrote way back and it was this...

 

 

 

Think about that and it's profound meaning on the rest of your life if you continue to think like that. Change now.

That's just a frame of mind I sometimes go in, usually if I have a bad experience which seems to prove I'm correct.

Concentrate on getting through therapy and achieving that, take small steps. Like try going for just one drink in a local pub once a week? If you assume your going to be rejected anyway, what are you going to lose?

And the UK is an awesome please to live.

Yeah that's what I'm trying to do, taking baby steps and pushing the bounderies that little bit further. As for the UK, I feel like I don't really relate to the typical UK person, whereas people from the US they seem to be totally my sort of people. I feel like if I lived over there I'd totally fit in there.

Ross, what do you get up for in the morning?

Think about what you'd like to wake up to.

Work towards getting it.

I don't get up for anything.

I'd like to be able to wake up to a woman lying there beside me.

Getting it though seems complicated, unless I pay an escort around £1500 - £2000 to stay there overnight.

There have been times where I've really wanted to kill myself.

 

Here is another!!

And again, how does that = that I'm actually going to go and kill myself?

"I wish there was a quick and painless way of killing myself".

 

These are your words!!!! so what were you trying to say then?

Since when does saying I wish there was a quick and painless way of killing myself mean that I'm actually going to kill myself right now?

Thanks for sharing your opinion (because that is all it is)

Oh and I never said I wanted to kill myself. Maybe you should re-read the first post.

I think he has stated his overall goal/s of getting girl etc. But first things first and there is no point in giving advice that is not really ognna happen until some primary steps are taken.

Um, what do you thing taking meds, and seeing a psychologist is? I'm also trying to push myself to do things that I wasn't able to do before.

Yet people, expect me to suddenly jump up, do friggin cartwheels down the street, get a job, ask women I don't even know for phone numbers on the street, and dive into bars or clubs on my own and start partying.

I'm sorry if the fact that I can't do that means I don't listen, I'm selfish and I'm not willing to try and sort my life out.

I am actually seriously considering getting a job and/or going to college to get a qualification that will enable me to do a job that I'll enjoy with a good future, and to start driving lessons again.

Your right man. Bullying sucks. All I can say is you dont know unitl you get out there. I am gonna be very real here with you. You are wearing out your welcome with a lot of people and have already. You have been told things over and over again but you are too self-centred to seriously take anything anyone says into consideration. Even though you are referring to your problems here when not listening its no different then not listening to someone in any situation. I truly believe you are hearing what people say however you are not listening. These are two very different things. You take peoples patience for granted. Ross no one likes to be taken for granted.

Fine I'll leave the site then, bye everyone.

Believe it or not this site was actually helping me.