BlueAllTheWay

some_guy282: What if it's my apartment and she's the one that needs to move out? (e.g. I can't pack my stuff and make a quick escape.) I asked her to move out and she refused.

southerngirl: I brought my laptop to work today because of the very concern you raised. It sucks having to worry about these things. My life's definitley at a new low.

Kind of embarrased having to drag my friends into this. But I guess safety is the priority here...

I attribute the lack of experience as the cause for not noticing signs earlier on. It was hard for me to distinguish abuse from normal relationship issues. As she started getting more comfortable with me things started escalating more and more. Each incident resulted in more bruises and more things broken so it was obvious after a certain point. I won't be making the same mistake again.

Date atleast a year, move in and live together before marrying! The former revealed her true color. The latter helped me determine whether problems and conflicts can be resolved in a reasonable manner. Reasonable meaning, non-escalating, non-violent - basically peaceful manner.

I never before met someone so callous and violent before in my life it's surreal even to me. Definitley watch out. Her true colors didn't show until 1 year into the relationship!! It's scary how well some people hide this sort of character it's almost Jeckyl and Hyde.

Yah, I agree laptops can be replaced. But it just sucked seeing a perfectly good laptop being smashed for no good reason. I'm kinda glad she broke it cuz now she doesn't have a laptop anymore. Maybe when she shells out money to buy her own she'll learn to treat her possession with more respect. (Just venting here. )

She bit me once, scarred me twice, hit me countless times, and verbally abused me on a daily basis. Broke my iPod, ripped my shirt, and you get the point.. I used to feel and care for this relationship but these days I can't feel anything emotionally anymore. I really felt the need to be alone again to recover.

I gave my 24years old gf a laptop for christmas. It's a laptop I sacrificed and saved money for... I lined up at walmart the day after thanksgiving for 10hours to get her this laptop... (They had a big sale and only had 40 laptops in stock.) I spent time showing her how to use it.. I paid for an online course she wanted to take so she can study for an exam... I bought her subscription for online tv so she can watch tv shows from her country... All because I wanted to be nice to her, help her, and make her happy... After 3 months, she slammed the laptop to the ground.. 3 times. stomped on it... 2 times. and it's broken. I wish I never spent the money... the time.. to get it. I'm hurt when I think it only lasted 3 months... It happened when I told her I wanted to break up with her. She has no control over her temper so I just wanted to move on. I ran off to work today at 6am because I was afraid for my own safety and I only hope she left too.