I do not know how to explain all of this.
To begin with, this has been a long distance relationship for a few months. Ever since then, since our communication has been limited, his emotions have become almost numb. The only real communication we have now is online, and even then he never expresses himself, only menial things like "yep" "ok" "(insert random comment here)" "i have to go now bye". He never says "I love you" or even seems to not show any emotions (like he had always used to), you have to pry emotions out of him by asking sneaky questions. So of course, for the past few months I have been questioning the state of this relationship.
I just got to see him again a couple of weeks ago to get a good bead on what is actually going on. To my surprise, he seemed to still care a lot (I guess). He claimed the reasons for not saying "I love you" and only "ditto" and "yep" were that since he has a lot of studying and work to do, that he can't show that kind of emotion and didn't want to lie to me. He also claimed he hated life and felt like he was losing all of his friends because of the time he spends on schoolwork. He assured me that I hadn't done anything wrong and that he was not trying to break up and that he wasn't cheating on me or anything negative and said things basically that were reassuring that he still cared about me and that it was all because he felt so terrible about all the stress. So I thought that this explained it all.
The thing is, he claimed that he did not have enough time to call me or think about me much because of all of this work.
Today I found out that not only does he have enough time to call, but he calls other people. Here I am hardly able to ever speak to him even ONLINE yet he can find time to call other people and play video games and carry on.
I don't even know what to think. I want to maintain this relationship. I am not trying to lose him or break up with him, but I can't take all of this confusion.
Someone please tell me how to communicate with him despite all of these barriers. How can I get him to show me emotion and appreciation???!!!
That's all I ever asked for.
If he really means what he says about not wanting to break up and all that jazz, what will make him show it? If he is saying he will always be there and doesn't want to leave, how can I make him show me that?????!!!! TELL ME HOW TO PROMPT IT OUT OF HIM!!! I WANT THE OLD HIM BACK!! THIS ONE IS TOO WEIRD!!!
I don't know how to communicate with him anymore. I'm all out of ideas. The only mode of communication I have with him at this rate is online, and he hardly comes on. How can I get his attention when he finally does come on? Do I have to resort to mental-sounding attention getters?? I really, really, really, really, REALLY need to hear "I love you" or "I care about you" again or SOMETHING to let me know FROM HIM that he still has me in his heart and isn't playing. It has to be there or else he would have no reason to keep acting like he does even if he doesn't say it. So if he ACTS like it and actions supposedly speak louder than words (since apparently he's too "depressed" to say it) how am I supposed to interpret that?? How...HOW....HOW?????????
I'm sorry, right now this message probably looks like a jumbled mess, but I can't really get this out right now. I'm just upset. I'll probably come back and edit.
Am I making a big deal out of nothing? ](*,)
NFEINPEORPOEFMPEOFhpofjpojwpofahfpoefr; HELP!!
Edit: Maybe I am making a big deal out of it. The sad thing is...I REALLY DONT KNOW!!! I'm losing it. Do you think it's a big deal to be upset if a guy isn't showing emotion, especially when he hasn't seen you except between looong time intervals? Is it only natural? o_o
Somebody please justify this man acting like this so I can feel better.
