mysterygirrl77

What are some signs that a guy is interested in you?](*,)

By the way, what do you mean by red flags with his mixed messages?

should I be offended by him referring to me as mama?

that's what is weirding me out. Last time I dated I was a single teenager. Now I have 2 kids to consider in every decision I make. You always hear of women dating guys that end up hurting their kids or a guy is nice to your kids until they get you and then they just blow them off. My kids father doesn't exactly treat my kids nicely-which is one of many reasons we split- and those are his kids. I also don't want to mess things up with this daycare because I like it, my son likes it, and it's affordable. I do like the guy- he's totally not someone I would have dated when I was younger- there's just so much being put at risk. Thank you for listening/reading.

I'm 28/single/2 kids. There is this guy at my youngest son's daycare, he's one of the owners/teachers. I'm not sure what's going on with him. I've been out of the loop for awhile. It seems he smiles at me, looks at me - especially when he thinks I'm not paying attention, and has started a few conversations with me about random stuff and one time about how good and helpful my son is - he stood right next to me when he was showing me his work. I pick my nephew up from the daycare for my sister a lot, and the other day he said how lucky she was to have me - but he was writing something when he said it. He asked if I wanted to stay awhile until my son was done with snack time. When he talks with me he looks right into my eyes - to the point where I felt so nervous I looked away. On the flip side even though he knows my name, most of the time he refers to me as mama( ex. see you later mama) while he calls the other moms, including my sister, by their first names, he nevers asks about my situation or what I'll be doing on the weekend, and doesn't inquire with others ( at least as far as I know ). There are days where he doesn't really say anything to me - he just looks quickly at me. I'm not sure if he has interest ( am I reading signs ) or if I'm imagining it. Please Help!!!!

I totally agree with you. My kids have always been and always wil be my first priority. I hope I would never make a foolish, selfish decision that would cause trouble in their lives. In fact when a friend of mine started dating, I told her the same thing about keeping the guy away until she knew it was a good time. My concern about this is the fact that I have been out of the loop for a while and I not sure what the signs are that a man has interest. I'm not saying I'm going to jump into a relationship with every man that shows interest, I just want to make sure I can read the signs or if I'm making stuff up in my head. I've heard people say that if you feel it in your gut then it's probably true, but my gut is all over the place lately.

I'm a 28 year old single mom of 2. I haven't dated or liked another guy since I met my kids father when I was 19. In Sept. 2005 I started school and put my youngest in daycare. A few days before Halloween one of the owners/teachers who is also a guy asked if I wanted to send my son on a different day so he wouldn't miss the Halloween party. That was the first time I can remember noticing him. It seem like after that point I started noticing him more. I would often catch him looking at me out of the corner of my eye while I was talking with someone else. I would notice him smile at something me or my kids would do or say. At least when I was around he always seem to take an interest in my son more so then the other kids. Near Christmas I needed an extra day of daycare and asked him what it would cost and he told me he didn't have time to figure it out so to consider it a Christmas gift from him -although with this one I wasn't sure if I should be flattered or offended he couldn't take the time. For about a week and a half in Jan. he suddenly seemed to have stopped talking to me; even a hello or goodbye. So I figured I was wrong about him having interest. Slowly he seem to come back to where he was with me at Christmas time but it was just mainly hellos/goodbyes. I also noticed he was referring to me as mama ( see you later mama )while he called the other mothers, including my sister by their first names. Well this week was the week to confuse me for good. He acually referrred to me by my name. He struck up a conversation with me about my son, how good he is and helpful - standing right next to me showing me his work which is not a ususal thing they do there, how my sister was lucky to have me - I pick up my nephew from there everyday, and when my son didn't want to leave he asked if I wanted to stay while they had snack time. He also asked my oldest how many bros and sis he had and when my son asked him why he said he was just wondering. He was looking and smiling a lot. With all this, I'm not sure if he is with someone or not - haven't asked; and he has never made any move past what I have explained and it's been three months now. I'm going nuts. Although I'm 28, I feel so new to this because last time I was in a situation like this I was a teenager. Can someone tell me what they think is going on?