I've been seeing this girl for just about 2 months now, who sort of stepped right into things with me from a previous boyfriend. they were not together long "only about 2 - 3 months" but had been friends previously, and things were just not working out with them as a couple. She's going to be telling this guy that we've been seeing each other very very soon, and its been stressing her out quite a bit because she wants to salvage a friendship with him - but knows he is not going to react well.
Things with us have been terrific, we really really get one another and i LOVE spending time with her, i also know that she is enjoying it as well. But the past few days i've noticed her being a bit more negative towards me, seeming irritated in a way - so last night i asked her if something was wrong. After a bit of digging she ended up saying that she is stressed out about being an 'official couple' (which we are not) and while at times she feels great about us - other times she feels a bit overwhelmed. I've been very careful to not be overbearing anbd just take it easy because i knew from the beginning it was a quick transition for her, we get together twice a week - and talk throughout the week ... but not anything too intense or obligatory. I've also told her that if she feels like she needs some time alone that i will give her whatever time she needs, though i know it'll be tough on me ... i've just been trying to be as easy on her as possible... and i don't think thats working. she doesnt really know exactly what she needs to have happen right now, so i'm left guessing by myself. I think, to protect myself, and maybe (hopefully) make her miss me a bit and make things a little more clear one way or another to her that i am going to back off a bit.
my question is just what is the best way to go about backing off? i AM confident that she will want to become more serious at some point, but i don't want to create too much distance and give the wrong idea. I'm planning on still getting together with her, but maybe more for dinner/movie .. things like that, and not sleeping over her place. How much time should i give this, and to what degree should i be doing there?? Any advice at all is appreciated, thanks!!
