KieranMc

Ok... this may be slightly X rated (R Rated for you American chaps)

You can try some of the following...

1. Think of Porn.. I know it sounds bad but sometimes you just have to get your mind off the problem.. nothing to do with preferring porn like some of the ladies rage on about here.. is just a distraction for you to use.

2. Slap your "lil guy" against her rear whilst she is bent over and tell her how much it turns you on... that may set the mood.

3. Like I said in an earlier post... try asking her to lick your Anus.. I know it sounds a bit gross but a touch of Rimming may either get you hard or just create a more relaxed atmosphere.

4. Chase her around the bedroom... ask her to try and escape your clutches as long as she can.. chase her all over the place and maybe have a pillow fight.

Try them tonight and if it doesn't work come back for some more insane gems of wisdom.

Dear god... You know what.. if it were me.. I'd pay her mum to kiss me all night.. get better at it and when she says "OH GOD HONEY... YOU'VE REALLY IMPROVED".. You can come back with "YEAH?? WELL SO HAS YOUR MOM!!! HAHAHAH"... sorry.

Also the person that mentioned Condoms is right. I got a nasty infection from it not so long ago and we couldn't have sex for like 2 weeks. Condoms or Nobums.

My current Girlfriend had a similar relationship a year ago.. truth is hun.. You have enough intelligence to recognise a loser when you see one.. Just take some time to yourself and enjoy life. Write down some goals you want to achieve in 2006 and strive for them... Love finds you.. not the other way around. I was single for three years whilst concentrating on my career. I'm a much better, stronger person for it.

Have dealt with the irrational crap I was worried about yesterday... invited her round to my place with candles... Apple Pie and custard (her favourite) and apologised for my ridiculous behaviour. We had a lovely night, cuddles etc.. was great. She is so understanding and I just don't deserve her. She makes me really happy and she also comforted me with a page from her diary.. It was about a year ago she was in this relationship and without going into too much detail the diary page she showed me told of her frustration at how she had never orgasmed before through sex nor stimulation by a partner. This is great for me as not only does she orgasm (up to now) every time we have sex... she also ejaculates... Ok.. sorry for putting you all off your food.. it's simple things that quell simple minds.

Feel great about things now and know I was being a fool... None of my business what she does with the photos AND.. I even stopped her from binning the pics.. telling her to do it in her own time for her own reasons.

Enough of my self appreciation... and thanks to ya'll.

Yeah.. read the thread just above.. is purely in the mind. Try some kissing and just forget about it.

This sounds insane.. but try asking her to lick your Anus.. this can have one of two benefits:

1. The sensation can get you hard within seconds

2. If she says no.. you can laugh and say "HA HA.. just kidding.. oh.. wooo... you should have seen your face... legend.. oh.. lol".. This creates humour.. which leads to relaxation.

My theories rule.

Don't worry about it my man.. this happens to ALL men... on a fairly regular basis.. the difference is most men can't talk about it.

I find that if I just lie with my Girlfriend and get some tasty kissing on.. it does the trick. Let me guess.. you get random erections during the day but when you get down to the freaky freaky.. your "lil dude" looks at the floor?

Not to sound too vulgar... but have you tried stimulating yourself DURING sex (clitoris)? My girlfriend finds that it pushes her just over if she is on the brink and finding it difficult, which is normally if she has already come a few times.

And beware the G-spot.. ensure you have a towel ready if he starts hitting it during sex as there is likely to be an astounding amount of ejaculation... from the female.

Don't worry about this. The same happened to me about a week ago with my girlfriend. She likes how close she feels to me when we do it... personally I could take or leave it. It happens when you use too much Lube hun.. the Lube essentially mixes slightly with you know what and ends up on the item inserted.. in this case his love pencil.

This happens from time to time, my girlfriend and I got past it by laughing about it. She felt very embarrassed at first but after comfort she was fine.

It's nice that he's trying to save your feelings by not going " WHAT THE HELL IS THAT STUFF ON MA WANG!"... That would be bad...

Is normal and happens to the most cleansed of us all.

True... my Mind says "Don't be a fool, you have done similar things with partners".. I've had girlfriends before..

and upon seeing a past partner she felt slighltly upset... thinking that she wasn't as good looking.

Hey, she's had better looking boyfriends than myself, yes I don't like it.. but I don't mention it.

This is all ridiculous I know, I KNOW! Yet I'm interested as to why the male mind does this... or is it not male specific?

Annie, it was her ex who took them and it was during sex.. which is fairly evident from the photos.. yet no graphic detail appears on the ones I saw.. I looked at two and placed the rest back in the drawer.. firstly because they are not mine to look at.. and secondly I felt ill.

In response to RayKay... Hmm... I'm tempted to agree but they were taken as part of a sex session..

Comments?

They aren't artistic in the least.. they are provocative in the sense that a romantic session was imminent. She looks happy on them which in a strange way feels good.. as she hasn't had the best of times in recent years and seeing her smile is always great.

The guy she was with was a bit cruel to her.. kind of guy I would enjoy going to jail for. So maybe that's it... I have a problem with him not the pictures?

All of which I already knew however thankyou for your opinion.

As I said... if you read.. I'm aware of how irrational I am being.. I want to know why? Perhaps this will turn out to be a male dominated thread as so far the female denomination has proved to be predictable in their response. Sorry but had to be said.

You made an interesting point however.. maybe she just likes the way she looks on the photos? Hadn;t thought of that.

As to pornography, it is irrelevant.. as to why you brought it up I'm unsure. Pornography serves a purpose and generates income for a large part of society. Problem is?

Thanks again

I read one line of your post

Im 18, my girlfriend is 16

There is your answer. She is too young and you are moving into adulthood. It aint ever going to work. Go for an older lady... they have fewer * * * * * fits and tend to be more independent.

Opinion given... awaiting the flameage.

Naa.. saying that it is due to him being male is a cop out.

He's in the armed forces... it goes with the badge.

Don't date idiots with guns.

Ok... before we start, this may take a fair few lines to explain. So please read and comment.

Met a girl, been seeing eachother for about 3 months. We slept together within a few weeks (not unusual, but a shame I suppose) and things are going really well... sort of.

I took her to italy for New years and it was great, we really enjoyed ourselves, not had a holiday in ten years.

Although it's only three months in, this is the first relationship I have allowed myself to get into in three years. Mainly due to focusing on career etc. I am earning that which I aimed to earn at this time in my life and things are very comfortable. She is financially sufficient and independent, so is in no need of assistance (makes a change... from girls I have mistakenly chosen in the past).

Anyway... onto the problem. We have been very happy together and spent a lot of time together... Yesterday I had a few days off from work to rest etc and stayed at her place. I have stayed there many times aswell as when she isn't there. I tend to just tidy up, do the dishes etc, then go home. Before I left I had mentioned that I would take the holiday photographs to show to family... I picked up what I THOUGHT were the photos but when I looked inside they were pictures of her posing (naked). They were in a draw she has labelled PHOTOS which I have seen a thousand times. She has pulled out what I thought was every photo she had but obviously not..

At first she failed to see the logic behind getting our photos from the photo drawer... although I can understand NOW how she can feel violated.. as I was being a typical inconsiderate moron by just taking before double checking.

Now.. I'm secure enough in my own ego to know that they are not recent pictures.. plus the date on them and her hair colour kind of gives the date away.. The issues I have are as follows..

1. Why does she still have them?

2. How do I get past seeing that when we are together? (Please any suggestions are welcome yet naivety is not my forte thereforeeee I am aware there will be no quick fix.. if any)

3. Why on earth do Men handle things like this so badly? Rather than being sensible and thinking to myself - "It's none of my business and it was a past relationship.. get over it." I create the whole scenario in my head and then feel ill.

I've had difficulty getting aroused around her since (well.. one day) and worry that it will get worse rather than better.

Suggestions?](*,)