Helkaer

I've tried just about everything to get her to open up to me more in that way but we're both the kind of people that almost always need and emotional shock to open up completely

I do hold her and tell her I love her and she says she feels very safe and secure in my arms. Which makes me feel like the greatest guy in the world. She says she's just very happy when were together and then starts noticing these things when she sits still and starts noticing it. She tells me when we talk and we aren't together. I've seen her come close to breaking down these last few days like once her sister snapped at her because her sister was having a headache and was really touchy. I just need someway to gentley ease her into this instead of yelling at her. I care too much about her to intentionally be the cause of her starting to cry at least if she's crying because of something I did.

So my girlfriend and I have been talking about both of us having a real problem with bottling up our emotions and then having a time when everything just falls to pieces. I've told her time and time again I want to be there for her if she does breakdown. Well she's been talking about her emotional build up getting unhealthy and that she expects to breakdown soon. I've been doing things with her to try and relieve stress. However today she said she needed me to yell at her so she would breakdown and cry to get it all out. I however don't want to do this. I need some other way to get her to release her emotions with out me doing something to hurt her. I don't think yelling is the best way but she says she's going to get someone else to do it if I don't.