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miracle29 said I am just trying to learn more about this very emotion-filled, complicated situation. I would not take it upon mysdelf to tell the wife, or to interfere in any way. I may be naive, but this whole area is new to me, and I'm just beginning to think more about it. Which is why I am so interested in finding other resources where these issues are discussed. To be clear, I am not in any way trying to condone or justify my aunt's choices, nor do I seek to condemn her. I am trying to keep an open mind, and simply seek a better understanding of the nature of her relationship, because it is something completely foreign to me. To the other people who recommended the "Other Woman" website, thank you. That's a very interesting resource. Any more like it would be very helpful.

Here's my aunt's story. She considers herself to be a mistress (not the dominatrix type). She is single, and has been involved with a married man for the last seven years. I know that society hates mistresses and feels them to be home wreckers. She's content for things to stay as they are, even though he has no intention of leaving his wife. She thinks of this as something much more than just an affair, as though she is above that. What's the story with this? Does anyone understand how this kind of relationship works? What is the benefit to being the "other woman"? Can anyone direct me to any resources which discuss this type of relationship? Websites, forums and discussion groups, etc. that focus on mistresses? She's pretty much an outcast with the rest of my family, but I haven't made any judgments myself. The way I see it, this is a really complex issue, so I want to learn more. It's not as though I'm unaware that people have affairs all the time, but this kind of long-term involvement seems less common. Where can I talk to other people who carry on a similar lifestyle?