After reading the reply responses so far, i respond accordingly.
Married 1st time around because I was pregnant, had the attitude of good enough to sleep with good enough to marry even thought I was not in love with him. He never knew this, was 8 years my senior and treated me like a beautiful book on his mantlepiece but never opened the cover to read the contents. He owned and ruled me. He was a big player unbeknown to me so when I found out after my child was 2yo I ended the relationship because fidelity is no.1 to me in a relationship. He is on his 4th marriage and still is a big player. 2nd time around, married a guy who I feel head over heels for, tall dark and handsome variety. I believe that I was the model wife, I owned property, a business etc. and he owned absolutely nothing but came from very wealthy parents. He loved the lifestyle I gave him, wanted a son desperately but decided kids weren't such a good idea after a while when he had to be responsible for his contribution to the family unit. Would not give anything of himself in the end, was always angry and I had no idea why.... upon reflection he has never had a relationship longer than 4 years, ours lasted 8. He left and I have no idea where he is now but know he is married again (3rd time in 15 years).
I have in actual fact mentioned my concerns about this younger guy to close friends - they encourage me to give it time and get to know him.
Younger women with older men seems to be more socially acceptable but when you have a younger guy especially one that is 19 years your junior -I have not known any personally myself by the way, but would imagine it not so acceptable especially by his parents. He says he isn't fussed about children and is wondering if he can have any anyway because of a medical problem he experienced 2 years ago.
Yes I would feel perhaps a little uncomfortable around his friends and family but only because I would be concerned with how they would envisage him. I am very gregarious considered very intelligent by my friends etc. present myself well with young physical appearance and no definitely not mutton dressed as lamb.... I acknowledge I turn many a young mans head but definitely am not conceited about it perhaps just a little flattered shall I say.
I am only interested in a long term long term relationship, I am not the "let's have fun for now" variety. I quickly become emotionally involved with the person I truly like. I do not find myself attracted to many guys at all, I am quite fussy and also old fashioned in my principles, believe in marriage vs. defacto relationships.
I really appreciate your feedback everyone - you all sound fairly in tune with your emotions and suggestions which is extremely important as I feel mine are a little off tap at the moment hence my questions on what should I do from here...... keep me posted please.
