Hi, I am Estilgar's girlfriend, and he suggested I post what I want. I've agreed, because I hate to cry and as he's said so often- it makes me feel better. I've had many upset sessions in between being happy around him like before and the more I talk to people, the more I doubt myself.
What I want, is to stay with him in this life. I grew up seeing myself as Asexual and to have taken so well to this love thing really threw me. And now I'm looking at him, thinking things should be switched.. but I fell in love sometime this past year. He made me happy and I accepted everything he was because I'd never met anyone like him. I changed when he was around. Everyone commented on how I looked happy. (Which must have been a big change.)
While the porn thing always bothered me, I trudged past it. Constantly reminding myself that it's normal for guys to do that, and none of my business to tell someone what they can and cannot watch. I respected his desires. u.u -sigh- I just wish I'd had the knowledge that they weren't turned at me for a reason.
I am full of hurt and forgiveness. I forgive because he didn't know what the strong and new emotion he was feeling WAS. I understand. And I hurt because he said he was in love so often.. and it was an invisible lie. (He also said I was "not ugly" when I asked if he lied about how I looked. You know how women are.) So that hurt too. In the past couple days I have collapsed and risen anew, and it's gonna happen again. I'm proud of myself.
I don't know if I have a question. I only have a plan. I wish to heal, and settle into a completely non-sexual relationship with the person who I'm most comfortable around. We do love eachother so much. I cannot find it in me to let that go. It wouldn't solve anything- that's for sure. And no one knows if it'll work. But when two people work at something special like this, it's good that they're trying. Content. Happy. I want those back without tears in front of them.
I've thrown angry comments at Estilgar, and then broke down and ran to him. My emotions are entirely too strong for one person to handle. But.. things are ok afterwards. I think that's a sign, personally. I'm not holding on to things that aren't there, but we do have chemistry and like to hold eachother.
I think that's all I can say for now.