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Hello, i(17M) about to enter the university exam and i might not get into the university i want and if that happens, i need to prepare it one more year and that is ok for me but my friends will probably go to uni in this year and i will probably be alone, i want to study ofc but i dont want to be an asocial... İs there any place i can socialize expect going to pubs?

And also i feel like i wasted my youth bc i did not go party or got a girlfriend etc...  İ tried to improve myself and and tried to have fun like traveling countries and learning musical instrument in my highschool years, i feel like i did not have fun enough which makes me sad and i sometimes get worried what if i will be alone at college...

İs there anybody who can give me advice about these?

(My bad if it is too long, i just poured myself here.)

14 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

What "requirements" are you worried about? If you mean the manosphere rhetoric, please forget that.  Do you have a good relationship with your dad or uncles or other adult males who could give you appropriate dating tips? 

Unfortunately manosphere hate groups tend to attract lonely naive men who feel isolated and get sucked into this crazy world of upside down hogwash. .

Just be yourself, focus on your grades, sports, clubs groups and social events at school to stay well-rounded and connected to people. 

To be honest about my parents and uncles etc.., i feel like i am really lucky to have them i want to keep focusing myself and have fun with my friend in hg but this thing i mentioned makes me wondered bc i have never had a gf before or a romantic interest, that is why i thought like are these things really true( i dont wanna be sound incel here😅) but thanks for answering me, i will keep continue what i do

10 minutes ago, boltnrun said:

It means pretending to be someone you're not. 

You're very young and it's normal to be trying to figure out who you are. 

Just so you know, I am a woman and I had no boyfriends in high school. Not one. It wasn't until I got out of HS that I started having guys like me. And I was a virgin until I was in college and so was my husband. 

Keep in mind, sexual activity puts you at risk of getting a girl pregnant and for STIs. No need to be in a rush to experience any of that. 

İ get what u mean, i guess i should not try hard about that but is predenting to be someone i am not s good idea? Bc i think if i do that, the other side would understand that

32 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

If you start believing all that stuff, you will be even more alone and be stuck in a deep dark pit of self pity. Confidence is what women/girls are attracted to so stop being a sorry sap on the sidelines blaming other guys for your lack of game. You change your attitude, you will change your world, and how the world perceives you.

What does having game mean exatcly?

İ feel like im tired like an old man about dating requirements

İ am 16 male who never had girlfriend,  in highschool, i focus on my studies and myself, i have friend group but not a romantic interest so it sometimes makes me wonder and whenever i look at dating forums etc....
İ always see something like, you need to be alpha man or u need to be bad boy, u have to be mean against girls (we could even make a list about this) i did not even know what is redpill or blupill (whatever they are) is or u have to lose ur virginity bc being inexperinced is a total turnoff for women(it makes me things that maybe i should lose it to somebody stranger or smthg) and those thing makes me feel like i am not worthy of love or anything if i have a crush on somebody in future and bc of that i am obsessed about it

Why being normal and seeing girls as a normal is not enough?

Do i really have to do these things to date if i have a crush on somebody?

How exatcly should i act if i have a crush on somebody?