I’ve always considered myself to be a sensitive person to other’s shortcomings. Having had awkward moments myself, I believe I do my best empathize.
I’m struggling with a girlfriend that openly talks about her insecurities. It maybe seems passive aggressive. If she sends me a photo and I do not flatter it, She’ll respond with something like “I didn’t realize I was that ugly today. Sorry.”
Although I try to be attentive, it frustrates me because it almost seems like an attention getting tantrum or something.
I’ve been trying to read up about women with low self image, esteem issues and insecurities. It seems like it’s a deep psychological real problem. And for the record, my girlfriend is going to therapy.
Here’s one example. We were at a local club where a lot of my friends hang out, and she accidentally knocked over a glass of wine. Nobody noticed. She later told me that she was afraid that all my friends saw it, and were laughing, and that I would break up with her. If my friends did see it – which they didn’t, they wouldn’t have laughed. Of course, I would’ve never broken up with her as I have done similar things like that myself and still do.
Part of me thinks that because I’m sensitive to her, she’s exploding it. I don’t like feeling that way, but it almost seems like her insecurities provide her with an excuse to milk me to the point that I sometimes feel very drained and depleted. This might make me sound insensitive, but actually I’m not.
Can any if you even relate to her behaviors? Has anyone ever dated someone with these type of behaviors?