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good point 😊

Thanks for response:) yeap that’s a thing I mentioned in previous comment - I try to figure out if it’s even possible to be friends and talk to each other or it will just keep me away from reality and not moving forward

He actually does have very cold relationships with other people that’s why I feel kinda guilty to dump him this way and give ultimatums because I know he has no many people to talk with. Anyways I think you right, we both had this perfect idea of each other but I was really curious to know him better, but Vacation Fling file I like it:) do you think in our case it’s impossible to be friends or I’m just kidding myself? It’s just I relocated to a new city 2 years ago and I although I’m surrounded with people and I have sone friends here, but I find it difficult to find right now people to have the same deep talks I did have with him daily

Yeap probably you are right, as I said I have this tendency to pick up unavailable guys and dream on after, probably it’s my way to avoid a real relationships. Anyways with this guy I did hope it would be real. As for depression questions he always asked my advices about daily life, and I always been there for him to talk about his struggles (as much as he did for me),but I’ve never suggested a medication or anything ofc because I’m not a professional, I know he has been seeing therapist before we met and actually this therapist suggested for him not to be in relationships for a while

Yeap I think you are right, I’m actually do go to many meetup events and even tried dating again so I guess I’m on right way, it’s just sometimes when I feel down I really want to talk to him but I guess with 0 actions from his side there is no even point to try

That’s true, I noticed long time ago that I’m into unavailable man, so when they do become available I even freak out sometimes. I was even thinking that maybe I want him because I can’t have him:(

Well yea I’m struggling these days with the finding what is too much and what is not, so I probably should have bring it up, not giving ultimatums “or you move in Lisbon or *** off”. Anyways that’s why I’m here trying to figure out was it me being too much or he has no interest. Apart of all he is a decent and very nice guy (Canada 🤣) so I miss also having him in my life just like a person and even worry about him since he had thus tendency to have depressions

I actually had this thing - I went through therapy and my therapist told me I am way too active with men and i should not be too initiative to keep them interested so I kinda was afraid to freak him out , I wanted him to take an action, not me as usual

Well now when you asked I actually realized I did not, I thought it’s way too obvious that I want to. From another hand he does not read my mind. Well he works remotely in Canada and I’m in Portugal, so as for me 300-400€ one way ticket is not a dealbreaker, plus half of Canadian and US graphics designers live in Lisbon now🤣

Yeap I think you are right, I’m actually do go to many meetup events and even tried dating again so I guess I’m on right way, it’s just sometimes when I feel down I really want to talk to him but I guess with 0 actions from his side there is no even point to try

Well that’s a thing, he never mentioned that he wound like to see me again that’s why I ended it also and I also told him that, so it was penpal thing I think with online sex involved as well. well that’s what I’m trying to figure out myself also - if I just feel lonely in general and want someone to talk to or I want be with him, I guess the last one which is obviously not gonna happen anyways

Well yeap that what it was I actually did not expect it lasted so long but he kept texting me so I was like oh maybe it’s going anywhere) anyways yeap now I found a job of my dreams and trying to date locals but seems like it was a special connection with this guy so I can’t get over him which is sucks:(

I do feel like I would not like this happening to me, and I bet your girlfriend also would not be happy if you did the same she is doing so yeap I would call it affair.

I (female 33)met this guy (33)a year ago via tinder, he was a tourist in my city for a week. We spend a wonderful week together, he shared a lot with me and opened up (as much as I did), and told me he never been that open with anyone and probably now I know him better than his friends and family. Anyways he left to his country (which is far away from where I live), and I thought that g this is it and was ready for it. But he kept texting me every day saying that he never felt that happy and I'm the best thing ever happened in his life, we became really close sharing everything with each other every day (texting around 7 h per day - yea back then I did not have a job so lots of free time). All of it lasted around 5 month and then I started wondering where is it going because I kept giving him all my time and energy. Once we discussed it and he said he was always in relationships(one lasted 6 years, another 5) and now it's the first time he is not in committed relationships and he want it to be like this. But our communication clearly was not "friends one". Anyways at some point I got sick of it because I felt anxious and insecure about what is going on, I physically started to feel bad and told him not to contact me anymore if he is not planning to move to my city (which now I realize probably was a bit too much to ask from a guy who I saw for 5 days). Anyways I really miss talking to him but at the same time I don't want to find myself at the same place where I was, all anxious about what is going on. He did not reach me out for 5 months (but also I told him if he will keep texting me all the depressing messages about him missing me and not doing a thing to actually see me, | will block him - also probably a bit too much but back then I was really angry). Once in the morning couple months ago I saw a missed call from him during the night but when I asked if he called he was like oh sorry don't know how it happened and since then I have not heard from him. I really miss talking to him so now I’m doubting should I try to have him back in my life or is i a bad idea?