Lexismith

Do you think him posting what he posted on Valentine’s Day was him playing games ?

That’s fine. I’m dating new men already

Nope it’s been a week

What games did he play ?

Do you believe him?

He told me he never goes back to women once it’s done lol

OMG YOU GET, YOU SEE IT THANK YOU.

Both to be honest.

I don’t know how this whole conversation or my whole topic made you guys feel like I’m conceited when it comes to my looks or my looks or everything to me. My looks have nothing to do with this situation at all. I brought up my looks because he never really gave me a compliment he would just stare at me. so the fact is I’m telling myself that I know I’m a beautiful woman I don’t need validation, but it would be nice to have the guy I’m sleeping with at least give me a compliment. This is not a situation of me not having substance or a personality, or me depending on my looks for everything in life. I’m a very interesting person with a great personality, with an open heart. Now I know my ego is pretty high this is not my first rejection and most likely won’t be my last. I’ve been in situations with men where things just didn’t work out either he left or I left so this is not a first for me. I’m not everybody keeps saying that. This is more so me being upset with myself because you also have to remember a week before he supposedly ended up with me. I wanted to end it with him And he convinced me, or we convinced each other to stay and not throw in the towel, and that he thinks that it will work if we keep going hard at it. Why wait a week after? To pull what you pulled and before Valentine’s Day that’s kind of why I’m upset..

So this wasn’t sarcasm? Sounds like it to me ?

No, I don’t want to actually be friends with him or get back with him at all. I don’t know maybe it is my ego I guess I’m more so mad at myself than anything.

I do miss him a lot. all jokes aside we were awesome friends, Just not just good together. I do miss his friendship.

Im not even going to argue with you. I was just asking a genuine normal question. If it was going to be a sarcastic response you could’ve just saved it. Stay blessed though.

I totally agree. I don’t think I was bashing him. He’s a great person. I really good person so I would never come on here and bashing just certain things he did made me feel bad that’s all.

I get it and that’s kind of why I came here and I definitely appreciate all you guys as responses

I definitely understand that, but what may work for you may not work for me though maybe you’re the type of person or the type of woman that will be in a relationship with a man that never compliments/congratulates you and your content with that. Yeah I do think every woman wants to feel wanted and reassured and at least told sometimes that she’s beautiful or that she looks good. We can even go past physical. Maybe it’s an accomplishment that she recently accomplished and you didn’t get congratulated by your partner. there would be times where I would tell him like Hey, I got a good interview or I’m about to graduate from college soon and he wouldn’t say anything. So there’s definitely more to this than physical appearance.

No, not necessarily it just feels like everybody kind of is blaming me and pointing out my faults yet I feel like he had a lot of faults as well and I’ve listed them. I definitely do appreciate all you guys as responses because it has open my eyes and I know that I do have to do a lot of inner work.

So everybody is on his side I was the problem got it !

A lot

Correction we were in the car and he showed me his DM’s and then he was like let me check yours and he seen the man that were messaging me. I didn’t just flat out say here’s my phone Look at all the guys that are messaging me plus he showed me pictures of the past women he’s been with.

I never said that. I said he never gave me a compliment. Y’all are acting like it’s so foreign like most women would like to be complemented in a relationship.

I don’t want to be showered in compliments but he never really gave me one? Which I found kinda weird. I think everyone is putting the blame on me in this saying I have a big ego. When in fact it’s the other way around. He would withhold telling me he genuine feelings about me because he said he didn’t want me to be big headed. I’m perfectly fine with this man not being into me anymore. The reason why I feel like I got played was because of the timing he literally ghosted me on valentines and posted flowers and a card on his story ? Then came back around after to send me that text. I can take accountability yes the things I did was childish and petty. Yet this isn’t just all my fault.

So you agree he wasn’t into me

So then I got played . If he wasn’t interested in me