So I (42f) is currently in a long distance relationship with a gentleman (22m) and we have been together for more then 1 year and obviously like any couple, we do have our ups and downs during it. We always try our best to communicate as much as we can to make sure things don't get out of hand (we can both be very emotional at times).
But as of late, he has been having doubts and thoughts about our relationship, mainly it's about my age and how much of a gap between me and him it is. He feels that it might be hard for me to have children at my age, we might not have as much time together because he is scared I might die early and leave him alone (possibly with said children) and we wouldn't be able to enjoy things because he just worries. Honestly, I can totally see his standpoint on those worries, but I have told him that hey, even if I was his age and such, there is always a chance that something could happen and I have told him that it can be the other way too that I might lose him too early. I have been trying my best to remedy and put him at ease by dieting, eating better, taking better care of myself by taking vitamins and exercising more and have been very successful in losing weight (I am a bit of a plump woman lol) and such.
We did have a talk earlier in the week, and he mentioned that he just can't seem to see us having a future together, but he still loves me very much and still wants to be there for me. He also worries about what his family and friends think, I feel like his family would probably be fine with it, they all seem to do their own thing in life, but I know for a fact his friends would be a bit...rude about it. I have told him that it is his life, that he shouldn't worry what others think as long as he is happy with what he has and does. But it just feels like it's up to me to maybe make that final decision on what to do, whether I try to convince him not to leave me or let him go and we just be good friends from now on. He has became such a better man since being with me, he has stopped partying so much, stopped doing hard drugs (at said parties) (but also just a tiny a bit of marijuana is okay), he has been able to concentrate and work hard at his current job, which he just recently got a promotion that gives him co-boss or assistant boss so I'm very proud and happy that he got that.
But overall..I just need some neutral advice or guidance on what to do, I love him dearly, I would give anything to be with him and for him to be happy. And yes..I do look at it this way, even if we did break up, I would still be there for him as a good friend no matter what and he the same.
So I (42f) is currently in a long distance relationship with a gentleman (22m) and we have been together for more then 1 year and obviously like any couple, we do have our ups and downs during it. We always try our best to communicate as much as we can to make sure things don't get out of hand (we can both be very emotional at times). But as of late, he has been having doubts and thoughts about our relationship, mainly it's about my age and how much of a gap between me and him it is. He feels that it might be hard for me to have children at my age, we might not have as much time together because he is scared I might die early and leave him alone (possibly with said children) and we wouldn't be able to enjoy things because he just worries. Honestly, I can totally see his standpoint on those worries, but I have told him that hey, even if I was his age and such, there is always a chance that something could happen and I have told him that it can be the other way too that I might lose him too early. I have been trying my best to remedy and put him at ease by dieting, eating better, taking better care of myself by taking vitamins and exercising more and have been very successful in losing weight (I am a bit of a plump woman lol) and such. We did have a talk earlier in the week, and he mentioned that he just can't seem to see us having a future together, but he still loves me very much and still wants to be there for me. He also worries about what his family and friends think, I feel like his family would probably be fine with it, they all seem to do their own thing in life, but I know for a fact his friends would be a bit...rude about it. I have told him that it is his life, that he shouldn't worry what others think as long as he is happy with what he has and does. But it just feels like it's up to me to maybe make that final decision on what to do, whether I try to convince him not to leave me or let him go and we just be good friends from now on. He has became such a better man since being with me, he has stopped partying so much, stopped doing hard drugs (at said parties) (but also just a tiny a bit of marijuana is okay), he has been able to concentrate and work hard at his current job, which he just recently got a promotion that gives him co-boss or assistant boss so I'm very proud and happy that he got that. But overall..I just need some neutral advice or guidance on what to do, I love him dearly, I would give anything to be with him and for him to be happy. And yes..I do look at it this way, even if we did break up, I would still be there for him as a good friend no matter what and he the same.