PinkPitch

I was asking her for POA for over a year but she won't give it to me. She says that she will let her current legal stuff finish and when all that is done she will look into it. I now realise that the legal divorce is never going to be finished.

Yes, I think her ignoring her solicitor is another aspect of what I am suspecting. I think it's some sort of a phone or social anxiety or something like that. I think it's just part of what I am seeing.

Ok, tha knyou for your reply. So the answer is to take my list to her GP in the hope that a diagnosis will be made at some point.

I emailed her solicitor twice already to try and get the procedure moved along but my email was ignored in November. I was expecting that because he would likely claime that he will only deal with his client and I am not client. Even though I wasn't asking for personal details. I was asking for the paperwork to be sent to my mother. I emailed again this week and it was ignored. I know the paperwork is online and I can print it but my mother is being awkward and she wants to wait and hear from her solicitor before continuing with the paperwork. It's all just excuses. I asked my mother to phone her soliticor back in September, October, November, December and again in January and all I got was a bad attitude from her and just excuses. Excuses, excuses, excuses and excuses. I am apprehensive telling the solicitor anything about my dementia concerns. For now. It is my home and what she's doing, she is making us both homeless by ignoring all of this. Not only that, my brother who lives abroad worked hard to draw up an agreement that we could all be happy with where my father would sign the house over, and we would pay his debts. Only that the divorce is holding it all up now. The next step is the divorce to finalise the matter. He is going to be furious because this is likely an inheritance for our younger brother being tossed away. I am also concerned about her health too. I really think with what I am seeing that she's going senile but it's not presenting as typical forgetfulness. I was hoping on letting the legal situation to conclude before going down the route of pressing her GP for a referral. She has no comprehension over the urgency of what we are dealing with and would liemje to wash her hands of her divorce solicitor and just ignore him. I am also extremely disappointed in the so far the divorce process has been 6 years and counting and there hasn't been one person that will put a stop to it and has allowed it to go on for so long.

I don't know where to post this bit I think this is likely the most suitable forum. My parents separated when I was younger. I remember my father being an alcoholic and coming home drunk a lot. He was hardly ever at home. He had a girlfriend too. My parents separated. They never sorted anything legal between themselves. I am grown up now. All my siblings live abroad. I live at home with my mother. There is a housing crisis in my country so accommodation is few and it's so expensive too. 6 years ago me and my siblings learned that my father was in debt. My brother was concerned that his debt collectors will come after the family home and he urged my mother to find out what her position is with the family home and if her name is on the deeds. My brother was curious because my father had it all and he worked hard but he blew it all on alcohol and cigarettes. It turns out my mother's name was never on the home and she never had any security in the home and the home was in jeopardy against my father's debts. She began a legal process. She had to start on divorce. The divorce was taking so long and it looked like she was going to lose the home too but the family engaged another solicitor to strike a deal outside of court about the family home. Some of the home was signed over, we would pay a portion of his debts. That deal was made two years ago. Only that his debtors (the people he owed) they never took our offer and it seemed as if they wanted the matter to be dealt with through the divorce. We were told that information last year. My mother was told that the next step is to finish the divorce. She was told this last year. About two years ago, I started noting things that wouldn't be typical of forgetfulness or demntia with her but I noticed behavioural and mood stuff with her and I strongly suspect she is going senile. Every day is different. The last time my mother's divorce solicitor talked to her was last summer of 2023. He told her that she will have to complete some more paper work but he enever sent those papers in the mail and she never rang him and followed it up with him. She was provided with a divorce date for January of this year in two weeks time but there's stuff that's still not done and she's not engaging with her solicitor who is also very quite. I asked my mother many times since last September to contact her divorce solicitor for the papers and see where she is in the process. She never did. All she would do is break out in a rant to me complaining about my father and his new relationship and none of it was sane-ish. She was really refusing to engage in the divorce process. Even in November I asked her again and he complained that she can't because it's Christmas now. It wasn't Christmas. I asked her again a few days ago will she be getting in touch with her solicitor but she's refusing to get in touch with him. I now see this divorce as pure folly. I now also strongly think that this divorve will never go ahead. I think it will only be dragged out for as long as possible. Even though we were told last year the divorce is needed to finalisise the steps of the housing agreement. I know all of this is so messy. I am so stressed. All of my siblings live abroad.